How often and how much for 3 week old?

[Lanzy]

When I came out of hospital I intentended to BF but then baby had lost 12% weight, I then by midwife was moved to 30ml formula and 20 min breast. They wanted me to pump too but never did that! As got stressed. This was first week or so.

I’m now BF 10/20 mins then will give her 60ml formula as that was last midwife said when she thought I had dropped BF. As she thought it would be best as expressed little.
Now discharged by midwife.

I’m giving baby breast as much as possible then after that she is drinking all the 60ml then looking for more. That’s when I try breast again or I just give her next bottle. Should I be moving her up from the 60 or is that too much? I just feed on demand as she gets cranky after the 60ml if I don’t rush!
i’m a new mum and autistic so hopefully yous understand stress and sounds silly but just want to try get it right

she gets fed before 2-3 hours but now sometimes within hour she wakes, she was 5 11 at birth and then health visitor said this week that she is now 5 13lbs so gained

If she's draining 60 then offer 90ml. There's no way of knowing how much she is getting from the breast. Just bare in mind that the more formal she has, the less milk you will make as breast milk is a supply/demand system.

Are you wanting to fully breastfeed going forward or are you happy mixed feeding?

I never thought of this, but glad you’ve mentioned. So far happy mixed feeding, but do like benefit of breast for her and closeness.
The one thing I don’t like about breast is not knowing how much xx

I've been mixed feeding for 13 weeks, I'm in the process of stopping breastfeeding.

Babies can overfeed on bottles so look up paced feeding to make sure she's not taking too much formula. Keep offering the breast as much as possible.

I refused the suggestion of giving my dc formula top ups and stuck with just breast. With my last dc I was a single parent with no one to try and settle him for me after a feed. Whenever he cried I offered him the breast and he always took it especially at this young age. It's comfort as well as food and drink remember. If I were you I'd offer the breast as much as possible. They get milk from a bottle without having to work for it so as hard as it's instant gratification. I fed mine for 15 months, 3.5 years and 4.5 years and they all self weaned with no formula given at all. Some midwives seem keen to push formula after trying to BF but this seems sadly linked to the lack of breastfeeding support available. Is there a breastfeeding group near you? They are very supportive I found along with the breastfeeding network I think it was.

Dd1 was 5lb 13oz born and went down to 5lb 3oz I think but gained weight slowly and steadily after that. She is still petite now at 16 and was deemed by the HV at a few months old and still tiny never to be particularly big. She was right.

Bf your first is a minefield I found. By dc3 it was easier to trust my instincts. Mine all fed hourly at your dc's age. I just sat on the Duda watching tv all day and fed and fed and fed. That's what newborns do and it's bloody hard work despite the fact you are sitting for hours.

All the best to you and your baby

Forgot to say.
They can feed anywhere from 1-4 hourly at 3weeks and they go through a growth spurt at this age. Recognise her feeding cues so you can tell if she's hungry or just wants a cuddle. There's no harm in offering the breast if she's upset, babies can't overfeed from the breast.

If she drinks the formula then looks for more them by all means offer breast again. The more you feed the more your breastmilk will be stimulated so it would be beneficial if you want to continue breastfeeding