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Can anyone help me teach my baby to feed more in day and less at night? Please?

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NoviceKnitter · 30/01/2008 09:16

I posted earlier this week on the sleep thread as we're having major problems settling our 7 month old in the evenings. But having tried to step back and assess what's going on, I think part of the problem is a feeding one.

She sleeps from about 7.30 but semi-wakes every half an hour (sometimes a bit more sometimes a bit less). She feeds for anything from half and hour to an hour. She's also feeding alot more during the night than a couple or so months ago. We co-sleep so I can't say exactly how much as I do manage to roughly doze through, but at least three times between 12 and 6am.

Meanwhile during the day she only grabs tiny breastfeeding snacks and I haven't found a way to encourage her to feed for longer periods.

She's always cluster fed in the evenings but I guess I thought things would calm down when she started solids (a month ago now - we're doing BLW and it's going well.)

I have always bf on demand but am now wondering about trying to introduce more of a routine and gradually encourage her out of the nighttime habit. But how? Water in place of milk at night to make her hungrier in the day?

I'd like to continue breastfeeding for some time yet and need to find a way of doing this without getting burnt out.

I think there's a sleep issue too - she can't self settle at all and breast only comfort so perhaps that's encouraged the relationship between sleep and feeding. At least some of it is genuine hunger but perhaps some is comfort sucking. I'm going to take her to a cranial osteopath just in case that will help her to stay asleep if she's not hungry. But I also think it would help if she ate more by day.

Be great to hear from anyone who has had experience of this.

TIA

PS: Sorry this is a bit long...

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motherhurdicure · 30/01/2008 10:27

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Scootergrrrl · 30/01/2008 10:29

If she's constantly snacking during the day, she won't be hungry enough at any point to take a full feed. If you can distract her out of the snacks and feed her proper feeds four or five times a day - or whatever she wants - then she'll take on more calories in the day and hopefully less at night!

NoviceKnitter · 31/01/2008 18:29

Thanks v much for replies. motherhurdicure interesting that your DCs grew out of this at 9 months. I guess she'll be eating more solids then. Someone told me yesterday sleep really settles once they start on other protein big time. I've just been doing a search on separation anxiety as I think she's just developed that too which is exacerbating her need to be close and on the breast at night. Maybe it's not the right time to try and make big changes - just go with it until she's feeling a bit more confident.

If anyone else has experience of this I'd be interested to hear...

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glitterkitty · 31/01/2008 18:47

Hi Novice- My ds is just the same- what did help was to take him somewhere quiet and boring (even if it was a loo cubicle if we were out- horrible I know!) for feeds during the day and being really patient and letting him take his time. When there was no distraction he did bf more. I found laying on bed ideal.

But having said that- I found that as soon as his teeth broke through, from that night he slept 12hrs only waking once. Before that it was up down all night, much like yours. Worth considering..

Good luck with keeping going bf, Im still going strong at 9 months despite the broken nights, it is hard though!

NoviceKnitter · 31/01/2008 22:38

Well she did have a good long feed at baby cinema...

When you say as soon as his teeth broke through do you mean each tooth or all of them (oh he's only 9 months so must be each tooth.)

I think if DD slept 12 hours I would have a sleepless night worrying what was wrong!

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motherhurdicure · 31/01/2008 23:18

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MrsBadger · 31/01/2008 23:56

how is her napping during the day?

during the day, if I can catch dd in a 'tired but not so tired she's melting down' stage she'll peacefully take a big feed and fall asleep afterwards so we win on both counts
(baby cinema on weds was a case in point )

NoviceKnitter · 01/02/2008 07:46

She tends to have a big nap in the afternoon on my lap when she feeds a lot - the start of her cluster feed. Morning and lunchtime naps have to be in sling in carseat

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NoviceKnitter · 01/02/2008 07:47

sorry, sling OR carseat. Sling in carseat really would be tricky

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glitterkitty · 01/02/2008 20:29

Hi Novice - yes its each tooth - he gets verrry graaadually worse and worse over 2/3 weeks for each tooth- culminating in hourly walkings/30 mins to settle full-on horror nights.

Then... the tooth erupts and we have peace. Then it starts again...

At least there is always medised, which usually knocks him out for 4 hrs when things get bad. Wish they would invent a stick-on patch to deliver it though, as he has pathalogical hatred of the spoon

NoviceKnitter · 01/02/2008 22:32

glitter - just so I'm realistic about our prospects here - did your DS sleep 12 hours before he started teething in the first place? DD has been really uncomfortably tonight. I do think you're right that a lot of this is down to teething. First one nearly through now though, until the next...

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glitterkitty · 01/02/2008 22:39

Before he got a tooth he was sleeping 7 till 7 (roughly) and waking once about midnight for a feed. This feed then moved to 3, then 4, then he slept through!

For one night

Then the teething started.

I havent found that he wakes from habit now his tooth is through, because as soon as he's not in pain he sleeps well and I hear him settling himself back off- despite when teething he wants to bf every time he wakes (hourly if neccesary) for comfort.

I did find giving him my pj top to suck in bed helped him get himself back to sleep. He wont be parted from it now!

glitterkitty · 01/02/2008 22:42

Meant to add, The teething started at 7 months for us, before that sleep had been slowly getting better and better from every 2 hrs at 3 months, to every 3, 4, etc as he got older, then as I said just waking once by 7 months.

Then it all went to s*!

NoviceKnitter · 02/02/2008 09:18

Thanks - everything's making more sense now. It's so tough being a baby isn't it? I really feel for DD at the moment - so many milestones all at once - must be so disorientating just when they're beginning to get the world they've arrived in...

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