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Will this make a difference to extending nursing my 17th month old DD

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BabiesEverywhere · 25/01/2008 16:04

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verylittlecarrot · 25/01/2008 16:07

Oh my!!!!!

Congratulations!

How exciting

PortAndLemon · 25/01/2008 16:13

Congratulations!

Taking your original question at face value , possibly, but it's quite possible to nurse through pregnancy and then tandem nurse. I strongly recommend the book Adventures In Tandem Nursing by Hilary Flower (whatever you decide to do -- for a book with that title, it's very even-handed and has some good discussion on weaning during pregnancy).

Speaking personally, I'm now 30 weeks and DS is just 3. He mostly self-weaned when I was around 24 weeks or so, but we still nurse maybe once a week. I don't know yet what will happen after the new baby arrives.

fletchaaarr · 25/01/2008 16:14

Oh congratulations!!

StealthPolarBear · 25/01/2008 17:40

Congratulations!!

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BabiesEverywhere · 25/01/2008 18:10

Thanks I have the Hiliary Flower book and I have found it very interesting reading but it doesn't give any definate facts rather this mother found X and this mother found Y YMMV type of thing.

So all I have gleaned is that my milk supply may stop, decrease, stay the same or increase.

The time for the milk supply change has been quoted as early as 10 weeks and as late as 30 weeks.

My DD might self wean now, if/when the milk goes or continue to feed or stop and restart later.

I am far more confused then before I read the book

At 12 weeks pregnant, my DD is currently still nursing as much (and maybe slightly more) as she ever did.

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Walnutshell · 25/01/2008 18:11

congratulations! lovely way to announce.

policywonk · 25/01/2008 18:14

Congratulations, Babies! I was still nursing DS1 when I conceived DS2. My milk dried up when I was about 20 -25 weeks I reckon, and (under some duress from partner/family) I decided to wean him then. In retrospect, I really wish I'd stuck with it and tandem nursed - I think it would have made the transition easier for him.

Your DD will probably give you quite definite signals about what she wants to do... then you just have to decide whether you want to do the same thing. (That's the hard bit, as I'm sure you've realised.)

Good luck - quite a few people on here have tandem-ed I think so I'm sure there is some great advice out there if that's what you decide to go for.

callmeovercautious · 25/01/2008 18:22

Ohh Congratulations

PortAndLemon · 25/01/2008 18:24

I don't think there are many definite facts, TBH -- based on people I "know" online who have nursed when pregnant their supply has done all sorts of different things.

Most have had the painful nipples when latching on thing, though (it's like having a newborn again for the first few toecurling seconds) and most have had the heebie-jeebies/feeling a bit creeped out in the way that she describes in the book. Very few have had their first DC nursing as normal all the way through pregnancy, although it's varied whether they've stopped altogether, cut down permanently or cut down temporarily.

For me the painful latch started around the end of the first trimester, and the feeling a bit creeped out happened on and off from around 18 weeks. For the first trimester, I dindn't notice any difference at all.

cmotdibbler · 25/01/2008 19:41

Congratulations ! And are you going to tandem carry as well as tandem nurse ?

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BabiesEverywhere · 25/01/2008 20:18

Tandem carry ? As in babywearing ? I might try and carry them both though my DD is starting to walk outside the house. I will definately sling the baby.

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cmotdibbler · 25/01/2008 20:33

Yes - I saw some lovely pictures this week of people with toddler on back / baby on front. Totally cute !
Ds can and will walk outside the house - just very slowly, and unpredictably, so still spends a lot of time in the sling.

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BabiesEverywhere · 25/01/2008 20:41

I have been having a look at TBW site for ideas on carrying two. I suppose baby wrapped or in a pouch on the front and toddler in a mei tai or obi (quick up down)on the back.

Not sure how you can back wrap with a babe on the front though. I normally bend over so DD can sit on my back whilst we tie.

Oh well I'll sort it out when I need to

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CantSleepWontSleep · 25/01/2008 21:22

Congratulations!

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BabiesEverywhere · 26/01/2008 22:24

Thanks CSWS, are you trying at the moment ? If so I send some baby dust your way (dodge if you don't want it)

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moodywren · 26/01/2008 22:29

I was still bf ds1 (he was 7mth) when I feel pg with ds2 I planned to continue feeding but ds1 stopped of his own accord at 11mths.

My midwife said the taste of the milk changes when your pg and that was probably why he had stopped feeding, but she had told me when I first got pregnant that I would need to stop bf 2-3 weeks before baby was born so that my body could get ready to produce colostrum that baby needed

CantSleepWontSleep · 26/01/2008 22:33

Yes BE - for 14 months so far (but took 4 years to conceive dd), so no dodging required .

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BabiesEverywhere · 26/01/2008 23:33

All the best luck CSWS, may you get a BFP very soon.

moodywren, Thanks for your post

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melpomene · 26/01/2008 23:49

Congratulations and good luck!

I got pg when dd1 was 15 months old and everything went well. The one problem we had was that dd1 was a VERY bad sleeper and the night feeds were too much of a strain on me by the 2nd trimester, so I weaned her off the night feeds and after that it was plain sailing. She was still keen to bf during the day and continued feeding until she was 2 1/2.

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BabiesEverywhere · 27/01/2008 09:03

melpomene, So glad you posted and mentioned night feeds.

My DD generally sleeps though but if she wakes up I do potty her and then nurse her back to sleep.

But my DH was horrified that I still do night feeds (I always get up at night as I'm a SAHM) and I was wondering if it was still 'normal'.

Not that I'm going to stop as it is a super easy way of getting her sleepy. DH was worried it was making me more tired during the day. As if, that is just being up at night and pregnant and running around after a toddler all day

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BabiesEverywhere · 27/01/2008 09:04

How did you wean her off the night feeds I tried offering water in a cup but it gets thrown at the floor and she signs and says milk, getting more and more urgent, so I just nurse her ?

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kiskidee · 27/01/2008 09:13

oh congratulations BE.

I imagine you can but the newborn in a FWCC and then load up the toddler in a MT or a simple ruck. bending over wouldn't matter once the NB is snugged up in a FWCC.

DD (older toddler) gets told to hold on to mummy's neck so I don't have to lean forward.

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BabiesEverywhere · 27/01/2008 09:25

Thanks kiskidee. DD is old enough to hold on if she chooses. So I'll have a go at that combination you suggested

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PortAndLemon · 27/01/2008 22:27

We dealt with night feeds (DS was nearly two and I was newly pregnant (ended up miscarrying that pregnancy)) by DH doing all night wakings. The principle was that "It's night time; Mummy is sleeping. You can have a feed in the morning when the radio comes on." It didn't actually take many nights for DS to accept that night time was for sleeping. But then he was a few months older than your DD at the time.

CantSleepWontSleep · 28/01/2008 15:23

Bloody hell BE - that baby dust of yours is powerful stuff .