Sooooo am I being selfish and not allowing dp to develop relationship with ds2?

[MamaMaiasaura]

Am breastfeeding ds2 (4 weeks old) and am not expressing at all. DP says he is happy about this and we are in agreement that we are not going to express at all and that when ds2 is older he will wean onto a beaker. I did this with ds1 (different partner) and it worked really well. I didnt give ds1 a bottle or a dummy as he refused both.

I keep getting comments from my mum about allowing dp to feed the baby and also from my sister as she wants to babysit.

Am I being completely selfish to not wish to share the breastfeeding?

dp does do lots of things with and for baby, just not actual breastfeeding.

Of course you're not being selfish - I actually think that at the beginning Bf is quite self-less because it is such hard work. If it makes you feel any better, both my daughters were BF and have had no problem bonding with DH - on the contrary they are both real Daddy's girls. Neither of them would take a bottle so he never got to feed them. He did change their nappy, bath with them (that's a lovely one for bonding), play with them, cuddle them - so many important things. I think that they are being selfish for wanting to compromise your BF relationship.