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End of my tether!!!

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Berangere · 09/08/2022 04:51

Morning all,
Just after some support and advice I suppose. DS (first baby) is now 15 days old and I just can’t cope with night times.
He only latches with nipple shields currently (that’s a story for another day) but we are breastfeeding for about 10 out of 12 feeds.
DH has just gone back to work so we are figuring out our days just the 2 of us, and though it’s a bit lonely so far we are muddling through, feeding and chilling out etc. I need to learn to sleep when he sleeps though…

But night time - Jesus Christ night time - I dread going to bed every night! He goes down ok, but then normally cluster feeds from either 11pm or approx 2am. I try to keep up with BFing him, but DH often does one feed of expressed milk or formula to formula whilst I pump.
DS is also so gassy and won’t stop fussing overnight, I have literally slept about 2.5 hours tonight and I went to bed at 11, it’s now 4.45am. We burp him for ages, keep him upright or on my chest til he’s ready to go into his crib.

I’m exhausted, DH gets frustrated when DS wont feed and go back down quickly. I’m trying to please everyone and I’m so so tired of not knowing what to do. I’d take a million bullets for this child and I’ve wanted him for so long, but I resent the nighttime fussiness and issues and lack of sleep so much.

Any tips or tricks for nighttime’s or do i just have to ride these tough weeks out? Really struggling at the moment, thought I was quite resilient but honestly struggling with my MH and exhaustion so much right now!!!

OP posts:
Hugasauras · 09/08/2022 12:58

You need to be sleeping in the day whenever you can! Tiny babies often have their days and nights mixed up and it can take a little while to resolve, so until it does, naps are your friend! It doesn't last forever so just do what you can to get through this tough bit. If you can feed lying down it's a game changer!

Make sure night feeds are dark and calm and quiet and keep daytime feeds in the light with stuff going on to help baby adjust to day/night difference.

Ajk176 · 19/08/2022 18:25

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