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Breast Feeding Boost Please

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 14/01/2008 17:19

Can I have a bit of morale boost please, sorry for the very selfish me, me, me post but its wearing me a bit today.

DD is 11 days and everything is going great really - no problems with latch or soreness and she was weighed for first time today and has gone fro 6lb 6oz at birth to 7lb 0.5oz today so obviously that is great BUT she is wanting to feed permanently - thats normal right?

I think Ive found it extra difficult last couple of days as DH had to go away for a funeral so Ive been on my own with 3 kids for first time and feel I cant divide myself in enough pieces to meet everyones needs!

Is she developing bad snacking habits? Should she be going longer between feeds? Can I build in any structure yet (tho god knows how I could

I have no intention of stopping but just feel a bit....I dont know....wrung out I suppose!

Oh and boobs arent feeing full at all - is this because supply is matching demand now?

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dd666 · 14/01/2008 17:21

keep up the good work with the bf you must be fab mom to even consider bf with older children to look after aswell,
is your dd using you for comfort?

IAteRosemaryConleyForBreakfast · 14/01/2008 17:24

No such thing as bad snacking habits IME - at 11do her tummy won't have room for much, hence the constant feeding. I don't think trying to stretch time between feeds will benefit either you, your DD or your milk supply. I think it's really soon to look for structure, tbh.

It is hard but it will get better.

It's only 11 days in - don't expect too much of yourself. Soon you'll have a bit more routine back and you'll have found your feet better. In the meantime enlist all the help you can and take it easy.

Oh, and congratulations!

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IAteRosemaryConleyForBreakfast · 14/01/2008 17:25

I should have said - what about a wrap sling? You can BF and carry her round but still be hands-free to look after your other two that way

lulumama · 14/01/2008 17:29

n o, she is not developing bad snacking habits, she is incapable of developing any habits, least of all bad ones, she is a baby, she does not even realise she is seperate from you yet. ... i would not attempt to get any structure/ routine, as at this stage , she is developing so rapidly... sling her in the sling and keep your hands free, sleep when you can, and sod the housework
remember snacks for you

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 14/01/2008 17:29

I have a hug a bub but just cant work out how to use it!

Im in the market for a pouch sling but taking ages to decide which I want (too many nice hotsling designs!)

11 days is so early I know, it just seems I dont have the luxury of time as much with it being number 3. The offers of help have all but stopped after the first few days and at the end of the day, things need to be done.

I dont want to rush these precious days but its difficult not to.

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 14/01/2008 17:33

Thanks lulu, Im crap at taking my own advice - if I had client in this situation (Im a doula) I would say "totally normal, sod the housework, rest when baby rests, make sure you eat, drink and rest, its very early days etc etc"

But when Im stuck to the same spot on the sofa all day I cant help but TWITCH at what I should be doing!

Doesnt help when people keep saying "is she good, is she sleeping much at night, blah blah blah"

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hunkermunker · 14/01/2008 17:36

Might my last post on here help at all - the ramble one?

It will get easier. She's still very fresh, Pecka (congrats, btw!). Sniff her head for me, will you, please? [broody]

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 14/01/2008 17:59

ooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhh hunker, yes, YES, that helps. Spoke right to my doubts and rang so true

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ReverseThePolarity · 14/01/2008 18:03

People who say "is she good?" should be given a swift look. Possibly if you feel up to it, retort, "what, as opposed to evil?"

Too young to develop so-called bad habits and there is nothing wrong with using the breast as comfort, that's what they're there for. But I appreciate it must be much harder with older dcs.

Have heard it suggested by others with more than one to make bf time into story time for the older ones... maybe might help?

Also I think it may have been Hunker or someone similarly wise who said that there are very few things that Igglepiggle & CBeebies can't do to help out with older dcs, at least for a while.

You're doing incredibly well {virtual pat on back}.

Nbg · 14/01/2008 18:05

well done pecka.

you sound like your doing brilliantly!

ladytophamhatt · 14/01/2008 18:06

ohhh, I'd love to have a brand new baby here...

This is me now after reading your posts pecka--->

Nbg · 14/01/2008 18:07

oh and btw, are you still getting rid of your sling?

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 14/01/2008 19:14

Hi, nbg, yep I am - a black tricotti

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Nbg · 14/01/2008 19:17

which number do I text you on?
the one you've been contacting me on recently or the older one?

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 14/01/2008 19:30

the one i was sending from about nandos the other day is my number

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hunkermunker · 14/01/2008 23:46

Do comment on blog, Pecka, if you get a mo

Very glad it was useful to you. It's been linked to on several forums, that post, and not by me - very nice comments indeed on other threads in other places!

BITCAT · 15/01/2008 00:13

It will get easier, i breastfed all 4 of my children so i know where you coming from!! 11 days they do feed a lot, but you obviously doing a good job keep your chin up, probably bit young to try to get any kind of routine feeding going, feed on demand is generally whats recomended at this stage. Keep up the good work and i'm sure it will settle down soon!!

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 15/01/2008 11:47

OH.MY.GOD had the most HIDEOUS night last night.

I was upbeat after this thread and had a more positive mindset, just let her feed when she liked in the evening and went up to bed with her about 10. Well, I am not exagerrating (sp) when I say after falling asleep until 12 she then fed for the whole night solidly and I wouldnt even mind a jot if she was actually feeding they actually seemed empty in the end as she was getting VERY frustrated, as if she wasnt getting anything - cue much crying from both of us.

Plus, she falls asleep on the breats so was struggling to sllep as she was struggling to feed.

I was in real tears by the end of it and I can never remember it being this difficult with DS (breastfed him for 5 months)

Whilst all this was going on I was wavering about bottles and think if I had any in the house I would have given her one - I was even thinking that this morning I would get up and go and buy some to avoid having to deal with that again - it was truly horrendous and I feel a bit depressed about it this morning, probably just because I am exhausted.

Anyway, this morning I am engorged and feels like my milk has come in again - has this been a growth spurt? I felt all day yesterday that my breasts felt very soft and empty and now this morning wham, big, bursting, boobs again!

Soooooooooooooooooooo, Im still in bed with her right now, letting her feed when she wants to and Im trying to sleep when she does, need to catch up in case it happens again tonight. I am so glad DH is here - I really couldnt have functioned this morning for the older two if I was on my own as I will be next week! (eek!)

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Ledodgy · 15/01/2008 11:52

Oh Pecka i'm right here with you. ds2 is 12 days today and doing exactly the same thing. excuse lack of caps am typing one handed. just wanted you to know you are not alone.

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Ledodgy · 15/01/2008 11:53

i too am dreading next week how the hell i'm going to cope with the school run, the feeding and the toddler god only knws!

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PeckaRolloverAgain · 15/01/2008 12:09

oh ledodgy, glad to see your the same !

ill stick it out if you do eh?

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