Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

Original poster

If you couldn't eat cake would you stop BFing?

17 replies

Tapster · 14/01/2008 13:06

My DD is now 14 months and has an egg allergy and if I eat any form of egg she gets hives after a feed - no matter how long since I ate egg.

So far its been 6 months without cake, mayonnaise etc... Its usually okay I do cook up biscuits and other puddings but sometimes a croissant or chocolate cake looks very tempting! Its also hard when we go out, I pack food for her but sometimes I end up not being able to eat anything myself - yesterday at a christening I ate mainly lettuce as everything was quiche or with mayonnaise. Even my and DH's family don't understand and serve cake or sponge for pudding . When my DD is with me its easier as I know it would be difficult to stop her wanting to eat something I'm eating but in the evenings...

I feel selfish put I feel its another nail in the coffin for me to stop BFing. Now under intense pressure from my DH also.

OP posts:
ProfessorGrammaticus · 14/01/2008 13:09

at 14 months I'd stop, tbh

onepieceoflollipop · 14/01/2008 13:11

That must be really hard. My dh has coeliac disease so can't eat any gluten but he has had it since a baby so doesn't really know what he is missing. He always says it must be worse for people who suddenly can't eat certain things due to allergies/intolerances (or in your case because of your baby's allergy)

I guess it depends how strongly you feel about wanting to continue to bf. You have done amazingly well to get to 14 mths. If you are keen to continue bf then perhaps you need to focus on all the yummy things you can have (and take them with you when you go out if necessary). If on the other hand you are wanting "permission" to give up the bf then I don't think anyone would think you were selfish. I certainly wouldn't describe a mum who had fed for 14 mths and restricted her own diet for much of that as selfish.

hth

onepieceoflollipop · 14/01/2008 13:12

p.s. on a practical note you can get almost anything in the free from sections in supermarkets, BUT things like croissants are incredibly expensive!

newgirl · 14/01/2008 13:14

i think 14 months is fantastic and if you decide to stop - for whatever reason - you have done an amazing job - so dont worry about it at all

id imagine you need some cake to build up your strength again¬!!!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/01/2008 13:15

It's really up to you. I wouldnt stop b/feeding, personally. Having experienced living with a child with allergies, and how difficult it is to find food for them, I would (now I know better) have b/fed for as long as they wanted to so that i could ensure they were getting something really good in their diet.

DD was/is allergic to cows milk protein which is found in lots of things so I do understand how difficult it can be to avoid a food substance that is widely used in products you wouldnt even think would have milk products in.

Why is DH pressuring you?

PrettyCandles · 14/01/2008 13:19

No, I wouldn't stop. Particularly as she has an allergy - breastmilk is protective!

OK, my situation has not been as extreme as yours, but both my dd and my ds2 have or have had problems with ordinary milk, dd also had problems whenever I ate mushrooms, and ds2 had problems when I ate chocolate. So I have also had the restricted diet issue, but to me it seemed that the benefit of breastmilk overruled the inconvenience to me. Eventually the child self-weans and you will be released from the restrictions. But until then you give her so much more than just milk by breastfeeding her.

specialmagiclady · 15/01/2008 22:00

My DS1 has egg allergy. I'd ditch the boobs for a slice of cake (hell, I'd sell my mother!)

Seriously tho' you've done really well to get to 14 months. It's going to be hard enough to cater for your family, without depriving yourself of life's one true pleasure cake.

specialmagiclady · 15/01/2008 22:00

My DS1 has egg allergy. I'd ditch the boobs for a slice of cake (hell, I'd sell my mother!)

Seriously tho' you've done really well to get to 14 months. It's going to be hard enough to cater for your family, without depriving yourself of life's one true pleasure cake.

Original poster
Tapster · 15/01/2008 22:12

I will be checking next week whether I need to avoid egg when I hopefully ttc/get pregnant with no.2 - so the idea of not eating cake for maybe another couple of years makes me feel very sad... I have such a boob addict though it so puts me off weaning I know that I will have to go cold turkey - I've tried cutting feeds out but on a day when she is teething or feeling poorly we go back to 4 feeds a day.

DH annoyed about boobs being off limit I think and as we are about to start ttcing no.2 and I had such an awful pregnancy with no.1 I think he wants some fun after a long period of abstinence and the near future of more abstinence!

OP posts:
cmotdibbler · 16/01/2008 11:39

But there are loads of great recipes for egg free chocolate cake - in fact choccie cake is the easiest thing to adapt to a number of food allergies.
This site BabyCakes has a gorgeous range of egg free cakes.
I'm coeliac - diagnosed at 25 - and tbh, I'm happy to not eat a huge number of things to feel this well. My mum also says that if she knew what I'd get, she'd have bf'd me a lot longer (stopped at 9 months due to intractable biting).
I do get to eat most things, and its just more of a treat now than when I could just go into any shop and buy stuff. Some people just never get it, but if they are like that, then just take your own. No one ever turns down my gf df brownies !

cmotdibbler · 16/01/2008 11:53

Forgot to say - have been bfing DS for 19 months, and boobs are certainly not off limits to DH . He's not always convinced by what he calls the Kinder Egg aspect of the it - you get a treat and something to eat....

Mommalove · 16/01/2008 18:25

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

FrannyandZooey · 16/01/2008 18:27

I would carry on because it is so advantageous for children with allergies

but I have great sympathy for you

Slink · 16/01/2008 18:34

Hi i woke up this moring itching like mad swollen eyeys etc went to gp they gave me priton can you tell/advice me can i have passed the allergy whatever it was to my dd? and will piriton have an effect on her gp said no but she has been niggley all day. Sorry jumping the thread.

Oh i would give up to eat cake i blame breastfeeding for my food comsumption anyway xx

Original poster
Tapster · 16/01/2008 19:48

I have a number of allergies but not egg. You can't pass the allergy on, what is genetic is the propensity to allergy. Piriton IMO may have an impact on her - make her sleepy is the most likely effect.

mommalove twins with such problems yes BF is the way to go. I really hope dt2 grows out of the allergic colitis as I know an adult with it and it is tough.

off to make some egg free cake...

OP posts:
Mommalove · 16/01/2008 21:04

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

whomovedmychocolate · 16/01/2008 21:09

Rakusens cakes in Sainsburys are egg free and nice. I'm still feeding 14 month old DD (though it's tough because I'm pregnant too) and I have no intention of stopping. Mind you, if she was allergic to chocolate, I think maybe she'd be introduced to Maisy the cow and her magic white medicine a bit sooner

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread