I have a boob obsessed toddler and I'm 8 months pregnant

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I have been breastfeeding my son for 3 years, I didn't really intend on going this long it just sort of happened. I was hoping he would self wean around 2, and then when I got pregnant, but nothing seems to have bothered him.

I just want some advice on tandum feeding and what others have experienced.

I can't see an end in site for my DS and yo be honest I don't mind, but I'm worried I'll be a milking machine for another several years.

I guess I'm just looking for reassurance and experiences.

Thank you.

I've not tandem fed, mine did self wean when I was PG but my DF did . She rated Adventures in Tandem Nursing.

Are you in touch with an LLL group? They're usually quite helpful and might even have a copy of the book to borrow

Thanks.

I'll look into it.

No unfortunately where I am there isn't much help in terms of local Lll groups.

I'm sure I can find some information, was given a load of things from the HV the other day so will look into that soon.

Thanks for the advice.

Hi, I tandem fed for about a year. Similar age gap to you, my daughter had just turned three when my son was born. It wasn't always easy, there were times when it felt overwhelming and I got so touched out. But so many positives too. I had lots of chats with my daughter about how she would share the milk with the baby, and whenever he cried she would tell me to give him mummy milk. It was very sweet and there was never any jealousy. I found it a bit much feeding both at the same time but she understood that baby needed to feed first because that was his only food whereas she could have other snacks. It's also very useful having a breastfeeding toddler on hand if you ever get engorged! I started to put limits on her feeding after a few months as it was exhausting sometimes. She accepted them with no upset and gradually reduced her feeds until she eventually stopped asking. I'm not sure exactly when she stopped as it was so gradual, I think shortly after she turned four. It wasn't something I set out to do and it was hard sometimes but I wouldn't change it for the world.

If you are on Facebook there is a group called Breastfeeding Older Babies and Beyond. Lots of tandem feeders on there.

Good luck! (Oh, and be prepared when your colostrum comes in it can have a bit of a laxative effect on the toddler! )

I tandem fed my second and third children. Older one was 2y9m when youngest was born. She didn't completely stop until she was 5.

It was fine, she was actually useful because I tend to get massive oversupply/engorgement in the first weeks. Toddler could relieve the pressure a bit so the newborn could feed.

I often sat on the sofa with one on each boob, the toddler acting as a nursing pillow!

I did get the adventures in tandem nursing book but to be honest we just muddled through, it was fine. My youngest was overdue and a big baby, which I'm sure helped-would be much harder with Alan tiny early one.

Thanks all really helpful.

It didn't help thr other week DS was only on boob and not eating.. Illness set back.. And boobs are sore on and off.

But he seems to be eating well and limiting his own intake.

He is aware that the baby will only be having boob and if he doesn't stop he will have to share.

He has suddenly started being happier to delay boob till later rather than getting upset and wanting it at the instant.

So hopefully things are settling again.

We will see how it goes.. And keep taking things a day at a time...

Thanks again for the info.