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Infant feeding

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That's because you are breastfeeding...

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claireybee · 09/01/2008 18:04

Took 4 week old ds to toddler group(I also took dd-I don't think he is that advanced ) for the first time yesterday and of course was surrounded by a crowd of cooing mums.

Was asked all the usual questions, how does he sleep, does he have a routine yet, does he cry lots, is he contented etc

My answers, feeding every 2 hours ish with the odd 3 or 4 hour stretch, sleeping ok apart from the 2 hour thing, no real routine, cries after feeds as has trouble with wind, likes to be held lots but v content if in sling blah blah blah.

Every single person's response to whatever I said? Yup - "That's because you are breastfeeding". Right...

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princessosyth · 09/01/2008 18:09

Oh dear, some people can be quite infuriating. I had the opposite when ds was about 6 months we were around MIL's and ds was crying because he was over tired as SIL's children wouldn't leave him alone when he was trying to nap and SIL said "well of course if you had stuck with the breastfeeding you wouldn't have this problem because you would be able to comfort him"!

For some reason I think that some mums just like to have a dig at other mums.

EdieMcredie · 09/01/2008 18:11

Also, why do people feel the need to get so competitive when it comes to babies? I have found people also have a dire need to compare.

Guess it's normal, but can be annoying.

TrinityRhinosDhWonHerAnIPOD · 09/01/2008 18:12

I've had that said to me

apparently that is the reason why

she doesn't sleep through and she is little

belgo · 09/01/2008 18:13

anything that is ever wrong with your baby will be blamed on bfing, btw, you may as well get used to it now.

whomovedmychocolate · 09/01/2008 18:13

Yeah, they are right of course, if you didn't breastfeed him, he'd still wake up hungry every two hours but you'd have to ignore him. That would be so much better obviously

mazzystar · 09/01/2008 18:14

surely what they meant was "ah that's because he's a newborn baby"

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claireybee · 09/01/2008 18:28

One mum (who has a 6 month old and so should know better) even asked if he was sleeping through. And then said "Oh dear, not a happy mummy then" when I said no. WTF??? He is 4 weeks old-do people really expect a 4 week old to sleep through? I'm sure some do but not many.

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flowerybeanbag · 09/01/2008 18:30

DS was just like that at that age, and he never had any breastmilk in his life!

mum2sons · 09/01/2008 18:33

I had that too with my babies and fully expecting the same with baby no.3 due anyday. If BF ders were to say the same kind of thing to a FF mummy we would be accused of being militant BFing nazi's .

mawbroon · 09/01/2008 18:45

I started telling people today that I am pg. Have already had a couple of confused comments about "but you are still bf ds"

We should not underestimate how knowledgeable we MNetters are about bf compared to RL

whomovedmychocolate · 09/01/2008 20:10

Mawbroon - I know what you mean - friend of mine also still bfing - when I said I was pregnant replied 'but you are still nursing DD'. When I explained she visibly paled and immediately went to call the GP - she'd been relying on bfing for contraception for over a year

determination · 09/01/2008 21:02

Have you tried Baby Massage or Baby Yoga? This may help him to settle for longer periods? And are great for mums to relax too. Also you could get your toddler a little yoga book for her to join in too.. my dd1 loves it!

TheIceQueen · 09/01/2008 21:04

clairey - I wish I'd been there with you and DS3.....he's 7 1/2 months and although he's having solids (a bit - blw) he's still having milk roughly every 3hrs - usually about 8oz - wonder what they'd have had to say about that LOL.

beansprout · 09/01/2008 21:06

So, in essence, he is acting like a newborn baby because he is breastfeeding...?!!!

Tosh!

sweetkitty · 09/01/2008 21:09

oh yes get used to it and whenever you say ANYTHING about a BFing baby i.e not sleeping through, crying, etc chances are you will get a "put them on a bottle" comment

I remember changing DD2's nappy at a toddler group and a few mums commenting on her having the runs and her strange yellow poo (they had never seen a BF babies poo before)

suzi2 · 09/01/2008 21:09

DD is still worse than that at 11 months. The sleep clinic HV is coming tomorrow to try and help with her sleep and I have a feeling that the reason everything is wrong is "because you're breastfeeding". She's also hitting that age where I'm having to constantly defend my decision to still be feeding her.

Both mine were grouchy, unsettled, no routine, cried a lot, awake a lot at that age too...

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