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Baby breastfeeding all day

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Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 10:14

Brief background: at 4 weeks old it was noticed that my baby hadn't been putting on enough weight. Turns outs it was a mixture of sleepy baby not feeding enough and a low breastmilk supply on my side. I saw a lactation consultant who helped me to produce more milk. 4 weeks later and my baby has gained just over 1kg. Lots of heavy wet nappies and very dirty ones too. All the signs point to good milk intake.

Since having the low supply at the start, my confidence in my ability to produce milk is pretty wobbly. I am second guessing myself a lot (this is the third child I have breastfed and I very much trusted in the process before finding out about the low supply).

My baby is now 8 weeks old and feeds all day. I dont mean every hour. I mean all day long. She will wake for the day at 10am and will want to feed. I keep swapping sides over and over and over again until she falls asleep. She will wake up minutes later and will be very unsettled until I latch her on again, and this continues all day long until 11pm when she goes to sleep for the night and wakes for milk every 2 hours until 10am the next day.

I'm in quarantine with covid and have been at home for the past week so we haven't had any distractions like walks in the pram etc, so this might be playing a part. I don't mind the draining nature of the constant feeding, but I am worried that it means I don't enough milk even though she gains just over 200g a week. I still weigh her regularly to make sure she is gaining.

I live abroad and paediatricians here often have very outdated views of breastfeeding, such as telling mums not to feed on demand in case the babies get spoilt etc.

Has anyone had this experience of constant non stop feeding with a well established supply? I do feel the let down and hear her gulping regularly, but also have the feeling that she is sucking an empty breast just as much. Its literally all day.

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sqirrelfriends · 12/04/2022 10:22

Ds was like this, for about a week he fed all day unless he was sleeping it was a bit earlier though, about 4 weeks I think. I suspect it was for comfort rather than for food.

If your DD is gaining weight then shes not starving, it may be for comfort or she may be getting really hungry ready for a big growth spurt. It's not nice being stuck on the sofa all day though. Are you able to hand her off to someone else for a while so you can get a break?

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 12/04/2022 10:27

Being latched is not the same as feeding. Babies willl latch and suck for comfort

thebabynanny · 12/04/2022 10:27

Babies love to suckle, and we've evolved to carry our babies at the breast where they can suckle on and off all day and night basically.
Normally normal biological desire to suck.

Have you tried a dummy? This can provide a good alternative if you don't want the baby on your breast all day.

If you want you can introduce a bit of a routine or rhythm to your day now, for example when she wakes at 10am feed her both sides, offer the dummy and do a little activity like lay her on a play gym or give her a bath. Then around 11am take her out for a walk in the pram so she can nap.
Once you've got home you can feed her again.

You can aim for a cycle of feed-activity/awake time-nap-feed throughout the day with each cycle being 2-3 hours (baby probably won't stay awake for more than 90 minutes or 2 hours at this age!).
If your supply is established and she's gaining weight well, then she will probably go 2-3 hours between feeds with a bit of awake time, a dummy and a nap in between. Obviously if she is hungry sooner then feed her, but I would always wake in the day at this age if it has been 3 hours between feeds - fine to let them go longer at night though.

Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 10:49

Thanks for the replies. My husband takes her for short period while I wash or eat until she gets too irate and he can't hold her off any more.

I'm a dummy pusher but she spits it out. She will only take it if she is half asleep and in the pram outside. If she knows I'm around and she isn't distracted then she spits it half way across the room, such is her opposition to using it when the real deal is there in person.

Hopefully when I'm out of quarantine qe can start a routine as this is driving me bonkers. Should I just put it down to comfort sucking or a growth spurt?

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Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 10:50

*not quite half way across the room

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PurpleRainbowSun · 12/04/2022 10:59

From what you say it sounds like feeding is going great - she is getting what she needs.

The constant feeding will be that your breast is her favourite place to be, it's comfort not just food. Could also be a growth spurt or does she possibly have mild Covid? - being ill might add to her need for the breast. It's overwhelming for you but doesn't mean there's a problem with breastfeeding.

I imagine it will be a lot better once you can get outside again as there will be more distractions for both of you. With my baby I found if we stayed inside he wanted to be attached to me at all times, but if we went out somewhere he was much more chilled...

Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 11:07

@PurpleRainbowSun I think she may have Covid. I'm asymptomatic and the velco-baby started around the time I got my positive test. However I was out and about a little bit more previously, though not much as I was chained to the sofa expressing around the clock, in order to increase my supply. I've been a bit of a hermit. When I get cleared to release from quarantine I'll never be home!

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NameChange30 · 12/04/2022 11:12

Sounds as if it could be tongue tie. Did the lactation consultant do a full assessment of baby's tongue function? I think "low supply" is often blamed when it's not the case - if you've already successfully breastfed two babies it seems very unlikely. If baby is unable to feed effectively they will struggle to put on weight and will breastfeed constantly to try and get the milk they need, but it's exhausting for them (and you!)

There is some information about tongue tie including what a proper assessment should involve at www.tongue-tie.org.uk/tongue-tie-information/

You said you're not in the UK so I don't know what the provision is like for tongue tie assessment but do see a specialist and get it ruled out.

Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 11:28

@namechange30 that is very interesting. No, nobody has done a full assessment like this. I'll see if I can find someone nearby. I didn't realise the assessment was so thorough. Two lactation specialists told me she didn't have a tongue tie, but they just looked and didn't assess the way it said in the info you shared.

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KatieKat88 · 12/04/2022 11:36

Could well be a growth spurt and settle down when you can get out and about again, or feeding for comfort. If nappies and growth are fine I'd keep an eye on it but it could change just as quick as it started.

NameChange30 · 12/04/2022 11:38

It's sadly quite common for mothers to be told their babies don't have tongue tie when in fact they do. Happened to me and lots of mothers and babies I know.

(I also posted on mumsnet about my baby's constant feeding and had a lot of dismissive posts telling me it was normal, as you have done.)

Hope you can find a tongue tie specialist to do a proper assessment. As I said, even if it's not an issue, it'd be good to rule it out.

Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 12:06

@NameChange30 I've found the details of a dentist that seems to specialise in tongue ties in babies in the city nearby.

Interestingly, in all my baby's 3D scans (I had private antenatal care) she was always sticking her tongue out. The lactation specialist in the hospital said that she had a big tongue and that is was most likely interfering with the latch (agony at the start, both was the same with both other kids).

I had a quick look and my baby doesn't seem to have any kind of frenulum (think that's what it's called!) that I could see and her tongue seems pretty mobile but I don't actually know anything about it and am sure there are other ways tongue problems can present themselves.

The constant feeding has actually calmed down a bit today. Baby has been in her little bouncer for 10 mins while her siblings play with her. I really do want to get this checked though. Feeding this baby has been one challenge after another!

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Thejoyfulstar · 12/04/2022 16:26

I've just checked, and it looks like they don't cut tongue ties where I am. Will investigate a bit further.

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Thejoyfulstar · 13/04/2022 09:13

Baby has gained 300g in a week so think it was a growth spurt!

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ZMum22 · 14/04/2022 17:36

Sounds like she’s having a “leap” my baby is in “leap 2” and exactly the same constant feeding and clingyness! DD is on me constantly usually just using my nipple as a dummy! I did try a dummy this week and it did help a bit but I did some research on “leaps” and found the best advice was to let her feed as much as she likes! It says the most the leap lasts is 14 days we are on day 4 and it’s improving! She would just scream and cry unless she was on me! I’m just feeding her on demand at present knowing it won’t last forever! Binge watching Netflix

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