My sister and I were due with our first children on the same day. Her DS was born 6 days after my DD. I always hated the fact there was always going to be comparisons between us and our children and the way we raised them, and I have always made a conscious effort not to do the bossy big sister thing and comment on anything she has ever done with regard to what I did. I b/f she bottle-fed. No biggy.
But what really shocked me was that when he was still v. small, she told me she had started to prop his bottle on a cushion, so she could go and do other things, instead of feeding him. Including at bedtime... I'm talking before he could manage to hold his bottle by himself - so very small.
Now this is all water under the bridge now, our children are nearly 2 1/2 yrs old. But it was the only thing I found it hard not to contain my absolute horror about. Apparently she got the idea from other friends who had done the same!!!
Even now, I sit with DD at bedtime snuggling up and reading a story whilst she drinks her milk, albeit from a spouty cup.
I only mention it now, because it is the one thing I have never heard anyone discuss on MN. Is it because it really IS a bizarre thing to do?
(In complete sucurity that DSis doesn't have an internet connection.)