weaning

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mehdismummy · 02/01/2008 19:24

ds two next month and always said i would bf until two then stop. I am very nervous about it as he loves it so much and i suppose emotionally it means he is not a baby anymore. Dh says he doesnt want more. He only feeds at night and only for a couple of mins. Help badly needed

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lenaschildminding · 02/01/2008 19:37

I would say if he's only feeding for a couple of mins it's probably more of a habit now than a necessity and he'll be ok without if you still have cuddles before bed.

It's probably more distressing for you. Our babies do grow up all too quickly and it's a big milestone to reach. Knowing that you probably won't have another is probably making it even harder for you.

I can't really advise, my milk dried up really early with mine so I never had the option when to stop.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

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mehdismummy · 02/01/2008 19:54

thanks lenas you are right i think it will be hard for me . We have always had such a close bond as i have always been the one to do everything for him. I need to do it though otherwise he will be bf when he goes out clubbing!

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lulumama · 02/01/2008 19:56

why not carry on? just beacsue he is two, and you thought you would stop at 2, does not mean you have to.. it is not set in stone

breastfeeding not just about the milk, it is about the bond and closeness he gets too

if he loves it and you love it, why are you stopping?

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mehdismummy · 02/01/2008 20:20

do you know lulamama you are the first person who has ever said that. I waited so long for him and after my dad died a year after my wedding i never thought i would feel love again. Then ds was born and i thought my heart would burst with love. I am not particulary good at anything really or confident anymore but bf was something we did well together. Thanks so much do

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lulumama · 02/01/2008 20:23

oh honey....

you keep on doing what you are doing, if it gives love to your DS and you get love back, then keep going !

you don;t need to have a timescale for this

there are a number of mumsnetters who are breastfeeding 2 , 3, 4 + year olds

you will both probably feel much better about stopping feeding when it comes to a natural conclusion rather than one you decided on when he was a new born

137wallis · 02/01/2008 20:25

I agree with lm, why stop it's only once a day and you both enjoy it, don't stop because you think you should only if you really want to or you'll regret it!

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mehdismummy · 02/01/2008 20:37

thanks guys you have made me feel better. Its worth it when i see ds face when he says more for bf and i give in. He just lays there twiddling with my hair. Smiling. Never thought i could feel love as much as i do for him.

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