Breastfed baby only screaming at night

[Roo626363]

I have a 5 week old..she’s my second. My first had really bad colic and screamed day and night for the first three months...after that breastfeeding was easy and I fed for a year. My 5 week old is a dream during the day..calm feeds, comes off on her own satisfied and falls asleep. However at night she starts crying halfway through a feed (or less..sometimes at the start)..I then try to wind but she seems still hungry and screams and pecks etc so I try to put her back on but she screams even more just at the sight of the breast but then still seems hungry (sucks fists, bobs head etc when held against chest). This goes on for an hour + sometimes until either she gives in and falls asleep or eventually feeds and falls asleep. I’m so sleep deprived and tired..my 2 year old usually cosleeps afwfr about 3am but husband having to sleep with her but the baby crying is still waking her and just feel like everyone is miserable and grumpy in the day. I feel I’m struggling a lot more this time even though previous daughter cried so much more I feel overwhelmed much more easily and am actually thinking of stopping feeding..I really don’t want to stop but in the night when she’s screaming for hours I feel so touched out and angry. Not angry at her just overwhelmed and like I can’t bare to be touched..I have to swaddle her as can’t stand when she’s clawing / fist banging :( I know this isn’t rationale and it’s not her fault! It’s making me dread the night feeds and I feel on edge waiting for if she might start screaming..especially if toddler is in bed too or wakes up in the next room.

Any ideas on what’s causing this? If problem with latch or let down I would have thought she’d do this during the day? Same if colic why only at night? Maybe this is normal and I don’t know because my previous daughter cried 24/7 so I don’t know what ‘normal’ newborn crying is.

I think I feel more touched out beside me and husband would take turns with the screaming with my first daughter but now because he has toddler it’s all on me..it feels so relentless as after an awful
Night Then have a full day of overtired 2 year old tantrums. Sorry bit of a rant feel so fed up..I don’t think pnd as I feel a lot more positive when I’ve had a better night

Bless you. It's difficult. Sounds like colic to me - my 6 month old has what we called 'witching hour' between 4pm and 11pm where he screamed. Gripe water on a dummy helped a little. And infacol before a feed. Will she take expressed milk in a bottle? You could Hakka or pump a feed so you know she's full? Also, is she quite sicky? Could be reflux that build up over the day and bothers her at night? If she is I'd ask the GP for some gaviscon - it sounds dramatic but it changed my life! Sending lots of fellow mum love to you. You're not on your own.

That does sound hard. Is there a BFing Support Group locally that you can get to?

Sounds hard OP. I hope it will resolve soon. Have you looked up purple crying? My two DSs cried a lot during the evenings, I tried everything but to little avail, it’s worst was at 6 weeks. Just be there for her and know it won’t last forever .
I do have one piece of advice .... DS2 is extremely sensitive to if I had caffeine, he’s EBF. I recently cut out caffeine completely (when he was 3 months old) and he’s a lot less agitated in the evenings. Almost like a different baby.