Dd (2.4yrs) hasn't had her bedtime bf for 3 nights in a row...

[princessmel]

Do you think that this is the end?

I am letting her self wean.

Recently at storytime I've waited to see if she mentions milk ( rather than remind her)before she goes up to bed, and she always does. But on friday night she just didn't ask so that was that. The same with sat and tonight.

I'm not sad actually. I'm sort of ready for it to happen. She was only having this last bedtime feed. She dropped the morning one and the 'in the night' one herself ages ago.

Do you think she'll remember in a few days or will she have forgotten about it already??

My boobs aren't sore and don't seem any bigger.

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She may start and stop or this could be it.

You know it is ok to remind her if you want to keep feeding? It is still good for her so it is ok to encourage her to continue if you want to.

It sounds like it is happening gradually and naturally - she may feel she wants to again next week, or maybe not. It's lovely for her that you are letting it happen as she wants it to.

Don't know the answer, but I guess it could be. I think some people have found that they just do odd ones here and there for a while before they stop completely though, so make the most of it if she does ask for another.

You're sounding very brave at the possibility. Guess it might not hit properly for a while though.

well done you!

my DD decided that was enough at 17mo, she just stopped bf and that was that. only wanted cups of milk from there on. I offered after that but she wasn't interested. With just one feed a day i don't think that there is much effect on ya boobs, there wasn't for me.
like you, the time just felt 'right' for both of us. You are offering your DD the option, which is very positive, and you are so balanced and not feeling rejected or anything - just time for a change. you're doing a great job.

Thanks guys.

I don't know if I should offer it to her as I think it would be good in a way if it did stop soon. And she's done this completely by herself.

If she remembers tommorow or in a few days then thats fine with me. Its maybe that its just slowing down.

I do worry that we wont have such a snuggly bedtime routine now though

She's my baby, but she's so big now. We watched the video of when she was born today and the difference is incredible.

Just read that back and wanted to add that I'm not in favour of her stopping because she's grown up and getting big. I was just commenting on it.

I will feed her till she stops by herself. x

mine was down to one feed a day at 11 months then self weaned I was so upset. Still I think letting her self wean is great - you are then free to go out whenever you want/not do bedtimes if need be

I have been going out loads. I always just feed her and put her to bed before I go out. Its worked great and never stopped me going anywhere I've wanted to go. Apart from weekends away but I don't think I could have mananged that anyway!

Just do what you think is right for you and her. It sounds a very gentle way to wean.

F and Z

The other plus about this is that she's slept through all the nights she's not had a feed. I am convinced she was waking mainly because she needed a wee. Without a big drink of milk before bed she's not needed to wee in the night.
But just to confuse us I have also been reducing her nap. I don't think her 2 hour sleep helped with the wakes.

F and Z

The other plus about this is that she's slept through all the nights she's not had a feed. I am convinced she was waking mainly because she needed a wee. Without a big drink of milk before bed she's not needed to wee in the night.
But just to confuse us I have also been reducing her nap. I don't think her 2 hour sleep helped with the wakes.

My ds2 seems to stop and start bf quite a lot. He quite often forgets for a weekend at a time, and once for 2 weeks, but then he re-starts. I feel like he'll never self wean, and I'll have to decide when the time is right. He's 1;11. In my own mind I thought about 2 years was long enough, but we'll see.

Wow, 2 weeks is a long gap! Maybe thats what dd is doing. We'll see.

Ds has been doing this recently. He went for 5 nights with no milk and then started again. Last night he had a 5 second feed and said that was enough!! He is 3.2.