I've stopped BF cold turkey today

[toughtoes]

My "baby" is actually 23 months, but cutting down was not working, as too many tantrums. I return to work in January and don't want to do both things at the same time. I'm totally done with Bf now, feel sluggish and overweight, as seem to hold fat when feedings and crave carbs. Only wobble is the thought I fed DC1 until 25 months, so that's the only difference.

Bedtime was rough, lots of crying tonight, but had introduced a new book routine last week.

Feeling a bit engorged on one side. Did hand express a little but never managed to get much, very hard and uncomfortable to do.

How are you both getting on today @toughtoes?

Bless you. I did the same way, albeit mine was a lot younger. 3 days of discomfort, tablets really helped. I can't offer advice on the little one as they're older than mine but good luck with it, you'll be totally fine

I doing ok, very erm solid rocks earlier, but it feels better, but it isn't really.

Just having nap issue. Naps are a BIG problem as they aren't happening since quitting Bf, as I used to feed to sleep and both days this has caused a 5pm crash and then a wake just when bedtime should be. 😬😬😬😬 It was part of the reason reducing wasn't working as I would feed at nap time , but DD wouldn't nap last month or so and then want Bf again seeming tired, then again and finally sleep late afternoon instead of lunchtime. So then late night partying before a very late bedtime. DD not taking it as well as DS did and there was 3 lots of horrible crying for about 20 minutes earlier.

Been taking ibuprofen too. Really hurts to try to hand express a bit off , not sure if I should or shouldn't.

Not sure on the expressing thing. Have you spoken to a BFC on one of the Helplines? They should be able to advise you on how to reduce your risk of mastitis.

@PanicBuyingSprouts I'm doing ok, just having a warm shower twice a day, as can express a bit out in there, just eases it. Feel much better tonight, although no touching anything or hugging yet as way too sensitive. DD has asked a few times but no crying. She didn't nap at all today, we were busy as I just can't sit on the sofa as that were we would feed. I did love it when I would just snuggle her and feed when I had nothing to get done, but i am hoping she'll sleep through the night tonight instead 😬

but i am hoping she'll sleep through the night tonight instead 😬

How did that go?

@PanicBuyingSprouts it went well last night. She had just started on a cough unfortunately, bad timing. So I did get up to her coughing once, but she was half asleep sitting up in bed, eyes closed. So laid her down and she was fine. Cough much worse tonight, typical to get ill now, as breastfeeding really was handy when unwell, but there's got to be a first time for everything. ( I'm pretty sure it's not covid as she had that in October and I can't retest her yet anyway)

I feel ok, well it's weird I can't feel anything unless I get nudged in the chest or touch it then it's quite painful and hard. No cuddle zone sadly. That's hard and don't sit in that chair. Can't decide whether to express off a little or just leave it today ? Last feed was 11pm Friday, so 4 days exactly.

Sorry she's not well, that really is rotten timing.

I did a similar thing with my DD of not sitting down and being busy, seem to remember that it helped us with the transition as well.

I suppose that you could express a little, just to make yourself more comfortable?

Agony today one week on.. got some antibiotics and started taking just incase, but I have just got out my breast pump, it has really helped, I think hand expressing wasn't really the best plan, just life is busy and you know, pumping with an electric that plugs in is a hassle. I think last time it took weeks to be ok. Hoping it's sorted by Xmas.