Racked with guilt about tongue tie

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My baby is 5.5 months old so I have left this massively late. I've emailed the closest practioners to me in the hopes someone can come and assess her for tongue tie and division if necessary. But as its not done over 6 months im guessing I've got no chance.

I feel sick with worry at what potential issues this could cause when we start weaning next month.

She is EBF and we had so many problems early on, I did ask for her to be checked at 1 month old but the health visitor/'breastfeeding specialist' that came said she might have a slight posterior tie and that she didn't think it needed referring but she would if I wanted. I stupidly didn't press for a referral.

Don't even know what I'm posting for, has anyone else had their baby's tongue tie snipped this late on and how was it? I'm scared of both having it done and not having it done to be honest but I just want to do the right thing.

I know someone who went private at a year to do it.

Hiya op, I wouldn't panic. My son also had a slight tongue tie which we decided not to act on after seeing a specialist. He was 12 weeks at the time. Three now and it's never caused a problem with eating or speech. I don't think every tongue tie needs to be acted upon, though I know there's lots of conflicting info.
I'd try not to worry, get it checked out again of you're concerned and see how you go. If you do go ahead, I'm sure he'll be fine and bounce back quickly. Good luck!

I have a significant tongue tie myself and can confirm that I have never had any issues aside from being unable to roll my Rs or stick my tongue out very far!

What are you concerned about? If you're EBF without issue, that suggests that there's enough movement for speech, swallowing and processing food, etc...

When making your decision, be aware that tongue tie division and healing isn't always straightforward. My first DS had his tongue tie divided twice (due to scar tissue forming) and it could have been divided a third time but we decided to leave it as breastfeeding had become easier by that point. Our experience isn't particularly unusual, I know a few people who have had similar experiences. I've just had another baby and he has a tongue tie but it doesn't seem to be affecting his feeding (or my nipples!) too much, so I'm thinking I'll probably leave it alone as long as feeding and weight gain continues OK...

There's no need to feel any guilt, whatever you decide. This kind of decision isn't always black and white!

I had my sons snipped at 6 months it was fine. Not pleasant at but all over in seconds x

Thank you, I appreciate the replies.

Breastfeeding was really tough to begin with and she's had all kinds of digestive issues since (there's also still some clicking and misshapen nipples after feeds to this day) She was born on the 95th centile and is now hovering somewhere below the 75th :(

One of my friends (33!) has tongue tie. His tongue is heart shaped when he sticks it out, so it’s v bad.

He’s fine. No problems eating at all. It’s nothing to worry about. And you shouldn’t be feeling guilt, you have done nothing wrong. Dropping centiles as they get older and more mobile is very normal.