Pregnant and want to stop breastfeeding

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Hello, I am 10 weeks pregnant and my DD is 17 months and still breastfeeds usually only once during the day but several times in the night. A few months ago we had done very well to cut down on night feeds as it was becoming unbearable waking so often in the night. Then my daughter got sick and reverted back to breastfeeding at every wake during the night which is still 3-4 times a night. Now that I am pregnant, it has made breastfeeding really unejoyable for me. It really hurts when she feeds, we co sleep so when she wakes she does acrobatics all over me while feeding and by the 3rd time I have been woken I just can't take it. We only have the one room to stay in at the moment so we can't put her in her own room. My partner tries to settle her but she cries hysterically. I would really appreciate any advice on what to do as I am clueless. I'm happy to continue breastfeeding her during the day but i can't continue waking so often. How do I get her to wake less during the night? Is there some trick I'm missing. I'm sick with the exhaustion. Thanks in advance!

Oh god, that sounds awful. Can she go in her own cot next to your partner's side and he pacifies her with a bottle or a dummy when she wakes?
Also I'd put her in one of those grobag type things to limit her movement in the night.
It will be noisy while she transitions but it has to happen sooner or later anyway
Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way x

I think a few nights of you sleeping on the sofa and her in her cot in your room. If your Partner can go to her when she cries and you just don't go up. It's really hard but we did this and after a few days we all got a better night's sleep. I say sleep separately during this as it's quite difficult to not give in. We all sleep in the same room too - still feeding my 17 month old, but only once or twice in the day. Given up night feeds but I'm also pregnant again and I've got insomnia!

Congratulations on your new pregnancy.

I was in the exact same situation at the beginning of the year, BFing just get absolutely horrific so I stopped.

He was a lot younger than your DC though so it maybe different, I just stopped night feeds one night and only offered water. He drank some water the first night and had a few cuddles but then by day 3 (I think) he was sleeping far better at night. I had to start using cmpa formula though because he was too young to wean entirely.

I started with just me settling him, then as he got used to the fact that night time settling involves no boob then DP got involved.

@MakkaPakkas thank you! it has been really really hard and it's just reached a boiling point now where I can't do it anymore. She was in a sleep bag for ages but we stopped, not sure why but will give it a try again!

@dreamygirl25 i think you're right, will be spending the night on the sofa I think! Needs must. Definitely need to stop for my sanity

@FTEngineerM thank you that's really useful advice. She growls at me at the moment if I don't give her the boob it's so hard, she's a determined little lady but will try what you have said