Newborn awake all night/cluster feeding

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My healthy baby boy is now 2 weeks, and I'm wondering when he will get into a routine of sleeping more at night rather than afternoon, he sleeps from 3pm to 8pm daily without moaning and very comfortably in moses basket , he awakes and stays awake till 11pm, me and my husband will change his nappy, feed and burp him, put him down in moses basket, he grunts and moans and cries a little for at least 2 hours, then every 2 hours or 1n half hours gets up for a feed (bottle fed), its so exhausting and tiring, he only sleeps at 8am onwards for a good 4 hours! I am so sleep deprived, I am already having baby blues which I hope won't lead to PPD.

I am really grieving my old life, old relationship ever since I gave birth, the feeling is so over whelming, my all days and nights are restless just demotivated wondering when he will be up again for his next feed or nappy change, I do not want to go out thinking I can't be bothered to take nappies, feeders etc. With me.

My whole life has dramatically changed and I cant seem to see any light at the end of the tunnel as some mums say life only became somewhat normal after a year or two years. I do not want to be sitting here wishing I could fast forward time.

I wish to God he only start sleeping through the night at least, that would be a huge help!

Please someone help me

OP your baby is completely normal. First, you need to post again in the parenting section. This board gets very little traffic.
Then you need to speak to your health visitor first thing Monday morning.
At this stage you need to be resting, eating and drinking and feeding your baby.
Have you got anyone with you to look after you?
It takes 6 weeks to establish breast feeding and it is really important that you sleep when the baby sleeps, even if that is at unconventional hours.

Agree you should speak to your health visitor (assuming you are in the UK) ASAP.

This is very normal and having a baby is a massive adjustment but if you are feeling resentment of the baby and struggling they can help you.

Can you rest in the morning? My partner used to take the baby for a couple of hours at 5:30 so I could catch up a bit on sleep and it really helped me get through the night knowing that was coming.

Sorry, I misread your post. I see you are bottle feeding. Dusregard my breast feeding comments.
In that case, you and dh can share the feeding and take turns to sleep. Many, many couples do this in the early weeks.

With my babies it took til about 8 weeks before I was able to take them out by myself during the day - I to town to get something, or to the supermarket. Two weeks in is very early and you're still recovering from birth.

What you're going through is entirely normal. It will change, and it will change again and again and again. Sometimes these changes will be for the better and sometimes for the worse.

All I can suggest is going with it - trying to control it or fight against it is too hard. Get some rest at 8pm and 8am. Lower your expectations of what you can get done in a day. Know that your life and relationship are different right now but you'll get them both back soon enough.

And yes please please speak to your HV or midwife about how you're feeling. It's exhausting having such a small baby and the more you talk about it the better you'll feel and the more support you'll get.

Hi OP. I'd say your baby is actually really doing well if at 2 weeks you have two very long stretches of time when he doesn't stir and is gaining weight despite some long gaps between feeds. From what you have put here the nights seem very normal. I think baby will settle down after t the fourth trimester as peak crying week is ahead of you first.

I also read (I'm with my newborn now) babies are hormonally driven to wake up more at night to ensure they are protected and to get the best quality milk (i appreciate you're ff).

At how many weeks do they sleep more at nights

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Unfortunately it's probably not really countable in weeks. But it won't help to have some unrealistic far off goal. Focus on what you can do to improve your own sleep now. Just think a day or so ahead at a time. Sometimes in the newborn period even just thinking an hour or two ahead is the best thing you can do. It will get better, you will sleep again :)

It absolutely won't be like this for 2 years. It seems interminable at the time but most babies start to sleep more after a couple of months (although not necessarily all through the night!)
If you're bottle feeding then definitely share the nights with your partner so that you can each get a chunk of sleep. E.g. someone is responsible for getting up for feedings from 8pm to 1am while the other sleeps, someone else is responsible for getting up for the feeds between 1am to 7am. Then you both get a chunk of sleep plus some cat naps during your "stint"

It's really hard to say how many weeks it'll take for him to sleep but I would 100% say if you can get an hour or so when he sleeps 3-8pm then do it! Even if that means you have a late tea, or housework isn't done etc. I didn't take the advice to sleep when baby slept as I felt 'okay' and crashed massively at 3 months from huge lack of sleep and breastfeeding tiredness!

My DD 9months started to sleep for 5/6 hour stretches at like 4/5 months as we started to do an evening routine, and she now sleeps 7-10pm, Dreamfeed, then 10.30-6am and has done since 6/7 months.

Google 4th Trimester, babies don't tend to start understanding day or night until around 3/4 months. Your baby sounds absolutely normal, and it is really hard so you have my sympathy hun.

You will get sleep again, however, in terms of the stress around having to pack all sorts of stuff with you when you go out I don't have a way around that unfortunately! Make sure you have a couple of bags packed with stuff that you can literally grab and go so it doesn't stop you leaving the house. You do need fresh air x