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I need ye wise ones help please!!!??... problems bf'ing at 10 wks

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kelmcd · 19/11/2007 12:49

My DS is 10 weeks old and has suddenly started feeding reall badly. He has gone off right boob and just feel like its all going wrong
He is n't feeding for very long and as a result was up every 2hrs in thwe night. He goes onto right side for few sucks then sreams until i put him on left. He has also started bringing up the milk, big mouthfuls of the stuff
I really feel like giving up today, just dont know what to do!

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monkeybutler · 19/11/2007 12:52

Get some SMA and cut yourself some slack. Im sure will be vilified for it but lifes too short.

kelmcd · 19/11/2007 12:58

no tby me you wont, he has a bttle in evening and if it keeps up he will be getting one very soon, was just looking for advice really

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monkeybutler · 19/11/2007 13:05

I knowits hard work isnt it. I made it to a year with DS but only a week with DD. I had loads of problems with DD and gave up.

Maybe your HV could come round and give you some advice or try one of the specialist breastfeeding helplines (NCT) or maternity alliance??. It is nice to carry on as long as possible. Had DD first and really suffered with the guilt so tried mega hard with DS - he was a big lad so started combination feeding at 3 months. It seemeed to work for me Good Luck! X

lulumama · 19/11/2007 13:06

maybe he is poorly..? have you spoken to anyone? LLL, NCT Or ABM, been to a breastfeeding cafe? there might be an issue with something , that can be corrected. if he is bringing milk up, he might be poorly

also, don;t give up if you don;t want to, today might be a bad day, i;d get some more advice and help before switching to formula, if you are not ready to make that switch

monkeybird · 19/11/2007 13:06

Maybe starting a cold - mine does this too when snuffly - I assume he's just after a drink and wants to drink frequently. Or if he has a blocked nose, perhaps he doesn't like lying on that side and you could try holding him under the arm?

Or growth spurt?

Or maybe you're starting a problem with right nipple that he doesn't like (any pain or itching or redness or damage there?)

I ain't vilifying anyone for starting on ff (or even suggesting it) but make sure it's really what you want to do first... You've done amazingly well to bf to 10 weeks and these phases of difficult feeding are really common and IME (3 bf babies) only last a few days usually. I'd suggest wait at least until you've had one night when you're not up every 2 hours before making the decision - then you'll be able to make it rationally rather than under knackered pressure

Maybe - if spitting up more than normal - he is a bit poorly: have you noticed anything else?

monkeybutler · 19/11/2007 13:09

I had that with DS. He had bad cold and couldnt latch on properley and then he got a mouth ulcer and it realy bothered him. I did a lot of expressing!!. Growth spurt very common at around that age too.

Yes, get a good kip and make sure you make decision on a non mlk addled clear head. I tortured myself about FF my DD and made myself miserable.

S101 · 19/11/2007 13:11

Give the NCT Breastfeeding counsellor a call. If you are a member just ring up your local branch number.

If you aren't look on their website and give them a call. They will offer some extra advice.

kelmcd · 19/11/2007 13:19

Thankyou for all your advice
I know i am feeling worse about it cos i am tired, he has just gone to sleep so i will go to!
He has had a snuffly nose for about a week now but it doesn't seem any worse. I will try rugby balling him when he wakes up. I expressed of that boob this morning cos it was so full, i thought maybe it was flowing to quickly for him but he still didn't like it.

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kelmcd · 19/11/2007 13:20

Could me having a bad cold effect the milk etc?

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monkeybutler · 19/11/2007 13:23

I think it probably does affect your milk like anything else. My DS would refuse a feed if I had eaten garlic!!

ruddynorah · 19/11/2007 13:29

no a bad cold doesn't matter. if anything it's a good thing to feed through any illness you have because you pass on your antibodies to that illness in your milk. good for baby!

have you tried a rugby ball hold for feeding? it can help baby think he's actually on the left side when in fact he's feeding off the right side IYSWIM. so basically position him as if you were going to feed on the left side, but scooch him and you about a bit so he gets your right breast instead. so you might be leaning to one side a bit. he probably won't even realise. it may be that he's uncomfortbale laying on his left, so only wants to lie on his right side and feed off your left. does that make sense?

tiktok · 19/11/2007 13:30

No, a cold would not affect your milk.

NCT bf line 0870 444 8708

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 19/11/2007 13:35

Um, don't think ff feeding is necessarily the answer as if your ds is bringing up bm for whatever reason, he will also bring up formula.

Maybe the let down is too fast, or not fast enough on that side? Although if this was the case, maybe he would have started protesting earlier?

You've done the hard bit and got through the early days, don't give up now if it isn't what you really want.

Anonymama · 19/11/2007 13:40

If he looks like he prefers one boob to another, and if you tend to use the same hold (the one with the baby lying in front of your body - switching him round to swap boobs), then try fooling him by using the "rugby ball" hold (i.e. under your arm, so that the same side of his body makes contact with yours despite the fact that he is on the less preferred boob, IYSWIM).

If he is ill, I don't see how switching to formula will help, as breastmilk is more easily digestible so doesn't need to be in their tummies for so long before it starts being digested (that's one of the reasons that BF babies need to be fed more frequently than FF ones). As such, if they are ill, and bringing milk back up, breastmilk is more likely to have a chance to be digested, partly. Also the antibodies in your breastmilk will help him combat any illness more effectively.

Yes, it is really hard work BF-ing, and you would not be the first to pack it in at this stage if you decide to do that. But in the long term, if you can get some advice from someone more local (and more expert), then you only have to stick this out for another few days before your DS will turn a corner and you will find it getting easier again.

Good luck, and well done for persevering with one of the most challenging aspects of new mother hood (and that's a well-kept secret!)

PS com is good for advice too.

kelmcd · 19/11/2007 15:41

Well, he woke woke up from his sleep and tried the rugby ball hold, he feed for 15mins on both sides mind you he gave me a wee love bite in the process how will i explain that one to DH. I changed the position tho and he fed better
Thanks agin for help and support, much appreciated

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Anonymama · 19/11/2007 19:41

That's quite alright. You are a star, well done

alibaabaa · 19/11/2007 20:16

Good on you mate,
As a couple of the other MNers have said, you have done brilliantly - and truly got thru the most difficult bit. My DD was born 8lb 15oz - and guzzled and guzzled. Fed like a dream, until 6-7 weeks old - then all of a sudden she didn't feed so well adn brought up BM. She also went off the right breast. HV not v.supportive - but my mum had BF 4 of us, so she encouraged me to continue. It turned out, that DD was at the start of the cold. Within a few days, she kept milk down, and liked both norks again!!!
If after a couple more days things don't feel right, I would go to HV and make sure everything is OK.
Good luck and well done

kelmcd · 20/11/2007 13:03

Just wanted to let you know, with a 'good' nights sleep under my belt things are much better today Arben has feed well over night and slept reasonably well. Dont know what happened butam glad i listened to the mneters and stuck with it
thanks again!

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