4 week old NEVER off the breast

[Queenbee95]

I don’t get even 5 minutes. She is relentless. All. The. Fucking. Time.

I sit and cry all day because I can’t take it. I’ll feed her, she’ll fall asleep. I’ll remove my nipple from her mouth and she’ll either wake instantly and scream till I put it back or I’ll manage to lay her down for less than 2 minutes and she’s screaming again.

I can’t keep up, I can’t get anything done. I’ve been in hospital the last two days and she hasn’t come off AT ALL. I just had a midwife comment on this too.

What can I do? I’m beginning to hate being a mum and I’m beginning to wish I never BF her..

Someone please help me 😭

As others have said, try a dummy. As she’s 4 weeks now you shouldn’t get nipple confusion. She may also be cluster feeding? I think that lasted a couple of weeks for us

Two weeks down the line and we are still here!
She won’t take a dummy. I’ve tried once. Over the last 48 hours I’m lucky if she’s been away from the breast for 4/5 hours all in.
I’m exhausted and I’m sore and I’m at my wits end 😔

Oh god, I didn’t experience it for that long @Queenbee95 you just be on your knees.

Are there any signs of discomfort?

@FTEngineerM this has been ongoing since she was born almost 6 weeks ago 😔
She screams a lot when she is put down on her back flat, we literally have to hold her all day. Other than that she just wants boob constantly.

It’s literally always and I’m starting to feel really down about it, I had severe postnatal depression with my first and I’m terrified it happens again

Dummy or bottle.

I can understand why, literally draining! We didn’t have this so maybe wrong of course but I’ve read it on here quite a bit: silent reflux or reflux, super uncomfortable for them lying down so either asking for food all the time or upright. Doctors can prescribe something to help, could you call out of hours? Or maybe look here to see if there are any other symptoms? www.nct.org.uk/baby-toddler/feeding/common-concerns/what-baby-reflux-symptoms-and-support

You’re doing so well getting through this.

She's still in her forth trimester isnt she? Some babies just do this. Check for reflux by all means but sometimes this goes on into the fourth month. My youngest just fed until his 4 monthlys and his 'aware there was a world outside mam' lights came on.

Moving to a bottle means you can share the load but it doesn't mean for certain she'll allow herself to be put down. Some babies are just high needs for a while.

I've said this before, breastfeeding is how I got into gaming. Nothing much else to do.

You have to do what's right for you. If breastfeeding is getting you down then stop. Get her dad to get her onto a bottle and take yourself out for a bit.

Have you tried infacol?...2 of my 3 dcs had colic and were constantly bf ( especially in evenings) ...I used to give couple of drops of infacol before feeding which relieved the symptoms and they fed more effectively and settled easily

Silent reflux by any chance? Has she been checked for tongue tie? A stretchy wrap in the hope she might fall asleep in it and you can be hands free? You can even feed in a stretchy wrap, not totally hands free but allows some freedom.

This sounds very hard on you, bottle feeding will give you a break but might not solve the issue with feeding. Agree with other posters re tongue tie, definitely get someone who is qualified lactation consultant to support you if you can afford it, or find out if there is a paediatrician who can check for you or any breastfeeding trained midwives. You may need more than one try to find the right person, please ask for more help with this. One thing that helped me was doing the exercises with my baby that they give you for after the tongue tie is cut, you can find them on you tube, I never had the tongue tie cut as this worked on its own to get them sucking more efficiently. I also had cranial osteopathy done on my baby as she seemed to be in pain when she turned her neck, and that helped to release the tightness that I think she had from her birth. I did use a dummy with one of my children alongside breastfeeding for a year.