Weaned just before 3, now 3.5 and OBSESSED with my boobs - help!

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Not sure if this is the right board as she’s obviously not an infant.

DC3 is my longest fed child, weaning was very gradual and not traumatic for either of us - didn’t even have a specific “last feed”. Went easily back to co sleeping (not the full night usually) after a break as she slept just with DH for a while to stop the night feeds, ie she didn’t upset about not feeding.

But after maybe a couple of months break she just got obsessed with twiddling, poking etc. Not asking for milk at all just finding it funny it’s mostly at bedtime/in the morning.

It’s funny sometimes - a couple of months ago she woke me up by whispering “your boob is as big as a mountain” :o but oh dear lord the twiddling. It is driving me mad. I obviously move her hand away and say no, if I’m on the sofa it’s “stop or you need to get off my lap” (and I move her if she doesn’t stop). She doesn’t like being told off and will cry sometimes.

TBH mostly other than this she’s fairly ok behaviour wise. It just seems like however many times I stop, use assertive tone etc for this one issue it doesn’t sink in AT ALL!

Any advice would be much appreciated please!

My 3.5yr old ds is like this. Weaned him about 6m ago. It gets better with time. I've found putting boundaries in place while still allowing some "boobie cuddles" helps.

So no twiddling/fiddling but he is allowed to cuddle them sometimes at home. If we're ok it and he gets hurt/upset and wants to cuddle for comfort he has to cuddle through my top (like a normal child 😂).

Ds1 was also like this for a while when I weaned him so i figure it's probably just a case of waiting it out.

If you find something that stops it though please tell me too

Para 2 should say "if we're out..."

Thanks user good to know it’s not just her! I’m not sure if she’d want to do it while out - thanks to covid we’ve not really been anywhere - but I do like the idea of switching to the boob cuddles while not allowing the twiddling! I really don’t mind the cuddles and the odd affectionate pat 🤣 we are a very cuddly family anyway. It’s just the twiddling that is driving me mad really. But she is very stubborn!

I suppose I’m also wary of making too big a deal of it and turning it into a sad/angry subject. Maybe because she is definitely my last baby and I sort of don’t want to spoil the lovely memories I have of feeding her (even though I know that’s illogical because I still have those memories and it is separate from this)

I can totally relate to that. It has taken a while with my Ds but he's much better than he was. It was getting to the point before where if I saw him heading for my boobs I wanted to run away!

Aw, that made me laugh with the whispered mountain comment 😂. I’m sure she will grow out of it, but actually I think it’s lovely that she has an association with your boobs ☺️. I breastfed both of mine until two and it was quite a while ago but I remember my dd saying my breast milk tasted like strawberries lol.