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5 week old feeding for 12 hours?! Help

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Cat1990 · 02/03/2021 20:51

Hiya,

I wondered if anyone had any insight or wisdom here...

My DSvis 5 weeks tomorrow and having some issues with breastfeeding. I had quite a traumatic birth, induction where baby became distressed and then failed ventouse, forceps and eventually an emergency c section.

He was very jaundiced so needed to be put on a phototherapy machine and wouldn’t wake up for feeds so we didn’t have a great start for breast feeding. I also needed to top up with formula just to ensure he got enough in his system to flush out the jaundice so he used a bottle very early.

When we came home he didn’t put on much weight for two weeks in a row despite spending hours at a time nursing ( sometimes 10 at a time) he was also waking every 45 mins after a feed and crying as he was so hungry.

I have taken to expressing and offering him a bottle and breast and this has meant he’s gained weight and now sleeps 3-4 hour stretches but it’s absolutely exhausting!

He’s also having a formula feed once a night which my husband does.

Yesterday he nursed for 12 hours and his nappy output by the end of it was pretty poor- not very wet and less poos and today he spent a few hours only for me to give him 8 oz of expressed breast milk after and 3 oz of formula which he guzzled so he was very hungry!

I really don’t want to start full formula feeding and would like to transition back to full breast feeding but have no idea what the issue is.
He was checked for tongue tie at birth and I would be happy he was cluster feeding etc if he put on weight without the need for expressing/ formula.

When I spoke to the HV she encouraged more of just purely bf but I end up completely stressed and feeling so guilty he hasn’t had enough and is going hungry and he ends up frustrated and fussy due to not sleeping and being hungry.

Does anyone have any idea/ advice about this?
I’m happy he’s getting my milk but expressing doesn’t seem sustainable in the long run!

Thanks

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ButterflyBitch · 02/03/2021 20:59

I know he’s been checked but some kinds of tongue tie can be missed so may be worth getting him checked again?
If he’s nursing a lot and nappies aren’t wet then he’s not getting enough milk for some reason so that needs exploring ASAP. Don’t give up but can you get latch checked? Maybe speak to La leche league?

peachypetite · 02/03/2021 21:16

Babies can get dehydrated very quickly so if you’re concerned about nappy output i would bottle feed tonight and tomorrow until someone can see you in person.

cretelover · 02/03/2021 21:25

I would second getting the tongue tie rechecked. I was told mine didn't have one only to be told later is was quite severe and needed to be cut. If they take the bottle OK have you tried nipple shields?

Cat1990 · 02/03/2021 21:46

Thanks for your replies! I’ll ask the HV to check for tongue tie
tomorrow as I have an appointment with her in the morning.

Sorry I didn’t clarify- Yes I have been bottle feeding in place of breast and always topping up with expressed. I’ve just expressed enough for tonight and have formula just in case.
Midwives/ HV checked latch and said it looked good and I don’t have any pain either.

Yes worth giving nipple sheilds a go :)

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TomHardyAndMe · 02/03/2021 21:50

Both me and my sister exclusively expressed for over a year for our respective babies. My husband worked away and my sister is a single parent. So it absolutely can be sustainable.

SRK16 · 02/03/2021 21:50

I would speak to a breastfeeding consultant. Lucy Webber has some good free resources and advice if you look at her Facebook www.facebook.com/pg/lucywebberbreastfeeding/posts/

Also my little boy was similar, Midwives and HV said no tongue tie... but it turned out there was one.

albertsquirrelnuts · 02/03/2021 21:56

I would look at local professional or peer support rather than relying on your HV or midwife. They will have much more time to go over everything with you. I know one's local to me are providing zoom consultations. Check out the Kelly mom website for what a "normal" newborn feeding pattern is, it can be pretty relentless at the beginning.

Cat1990 · 02/03/2021 22:06

@TomHardyAndMe

That’s great to know-how did you manage it? I’m expressing after every feed rather than sleeping when the baby sleeps and it’s exhausting! Did you do anything that helped you express more at once?

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TomHardyAndMe · 02/03/2021 22:13

Baby in sight. Drink lots of water. Eat well, including porridge. Don’t skip night feeds. Don’t go more than 4 hours without pumping. That worked for 6 months. Had a freezer full as well.

After 6 months didn’t express so much but took fenugreek to help boost supply.

Cat1990 · 02/03/2021 22:16

@TomHardyAndMe

Thankyou!

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Fedfedfedup · 02/03/2021 22:53

I echo the above- wouldn't trust HVs to spot tongue tie. Lactation consultant would be best

3JsMa · 02/03/2021 23:29

Try the KellyMom website and LaLeche League.
I second the idea of lots of water and fenugreek/lactation tea,ask local pharmacy/Holland&Barret or online whichever more feasible.
If his nappies were pretty normal and the drier spell was only yesterday just observe,it may be just one off.He may feed a lot as very often first growth spurt starts between 4-6 weeks.
I know it's so worrying in the first weeks but I'm hoping it will work well for you.I always found the first 12 weeks very difficult and full of anxiety,even with my 4th I had constant doubts and panicked a lot.
Oh,joys of motherhood Grin Flowers

birdglasspen · 04/03/2021 21:03

First 12 weeks is hard, keep going, plenty of skin to skin, BF is weird as you never really know what they have drank! When things settle though you will have full feeling breasts before a feed and they should feel all empty afterwards! I agree expressing is hardworking on top of everything else. Hopefully soon baby will be getting plenty! Good luck!

Ellax · 16/03/2021 11:11

HV and midwives seem to know nothing about breastfeeding. Défo defo contact infant feeding team or get a lactation consultant to come over if you can afford it.

I was in a very similar situation to you and wasted loads of time as I put off seeing specialists as I though midwives and HV’s could help me out on my appointments and for free

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