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AARRRRGH!! someone please help me to not go back to the clinic and ram the WHO guidelines down this woman's throat!!!!

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theUrbanDryad · 05/11/2007 16:06

so i took ds to get weighed today, as i've been a bit concerned about how light everyone seems to think he is. he's lost 12g. is otherwise a healthy, happy, extremely active little boy. the hv asked me if i was still feeding in the night, and explained that if he was still feeding in the night, then he would not eat solids in the daytime. i said he just helps himself normally, as we co-sleep. she said, "Ah, well, there's your mistake then."

she also tried to claim that bm had less calories in it from 6mo onwards, and that if i continued to feed on demand then i'd be setting myself up to feed for longer. when i said i was planning on letting him self wean she said, "Oooh, well that's your choice of course."

i felt so demeaned and embarrassed, this was in a room full of other mums, all looking at me, all judging me for being a weirdo hippy (possibly i'm projecting a little bit there, actually ) it made me feel like my milk wasn't enough for him, and i should top up with formula even though i know that's stupid.

what i should have said was, "So, from 6 months my breastmilk magically contains less calories then does it? His 12g weight loss isn't anything to do with the fact that he's just done a massive poo? Or that he's zooming all over the place now? It's all to do with the fact that I'm not giving him enough pureed broccoli?" (she said i should give him broccoli as a way of getting more iron into him, because he wouldn't get enough from my bm)

AAARRRRRGH!! no wonder i never go to the clinic, they all make me feel shit!! ARRRRRRGH!!

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bluejelly · 05/11/2007 16:07

Print out the WHO guidelines and bring them along to your next appt

2Happy · 05/11/2007 16:08

You weirdo hippy, you!

theUrbanDryad · 05/11/2007 16:08

it's a drop in clinic, and you can be sure i won't be dropping in again.

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tiktok · 05/11/2007 16:17

She's really badly informed, isn't she?

Perhaps you can share with her this

[http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/116/3/e432 paper which shows]] how milk actually gains in calories as it continues....this paper looks at the milk of mothers who bf for more than a year, and finds it is more calorie dense. Perhaps you can ask her where she got her info from?

And 12g....12 g???? She must have pretty good scales to be confident in that level of precision!

tiktok · 05/11/2007 16:18

pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/116/3/e432 is the link

moondog · 05/11/2007 16:18

Fucking idiot.
Give me her name and address.
I will go and administer kick up the jacksy asap.

2Happy · 05/11/2007 16:20

UD - maybe it's the attempted stair-climbing that burnt the extra 12g off!

FioFio · 05/11/2007 16:21

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Unfitmother · 05/11/2007 16:32

Complain!

monkeybird · 05/11/2007 18:24

I have the luxury of having big babies who suck like barracudas so never had to worry about weight so...

...never showed my face at the clinic beyond week 6 of baby no.1 (now on no.3)

I say - if you're worried, get some good adult scales at home and step on with DC once in a while - and let them HVs and their evil ways go rot! And hope they leave you alone to look at your baby's glowing chubby cheeks to decide whether he/she is thriving or not. Honestly they've a bloody cheek...

theUrbanDryad · 05/11/2007 21:18

tiktok - yes, i thought bm gained in calories from 6mo onwards. i'm definitely going to write a letter to my local PCT and mention this incident (among others) the trouble is, i can't remember her name!! grr...

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pinkspottywellies · 05/11/2007 21:23

UD - why do you want someone to stop you? Ram away!

dd666 · 05/11/2007 21:36

it will be written in your red book where she wrote what weight your very smily happy ds is

theFlyingEvil · 05/11/2007 21:40

hi UrbanDryad, you may remember me from the tea shop and the bar, just wanted to say hi and take no notice of the stupid woman.

onepieceoflollipop · 05/11/2007 21:48

What rubbish (from her) Not surprised are so cross about this

We don't even get to talk to a health visitor anymore. One of the nursery nurses does what used to be part of the hv job. Some of her advice is ok but some of it complete crap nonsense. She told my friend that her daughter had an eating disorder/problem but the child was actually ill with a hospital acquired infection!- and was later rehospitalised with dehydration

theUrbanDryad · 06/11/2007 15:08

well "my" HV phoned me today to book ds' 8mo check (at 10 months, pmsl!!) and i spoke to her about this. she said when i see her next week she'll talk it over with me properly and help me write a letter to the PCT. what's the betting she forgets?

see, she doesn't know i've already emailed the PCT and told them all about this woman and yesterday's incident. i've also found out that this was the same HV who recommended CC to my friend when her ds was 4 months old!!

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moondog · 06/11/2007 20:12

Prize arses,the lot of them.

Tinker · 06/11/2007 20:36
moondog · 06/11/2007 20:37

No,neither have I from mine I must state (all fab) but it is so much fun to make sweeping and damning generalisations i find.

beansprout · 06/11/2007 20:39

Stuff her. Silly bint.

I think that there is something about them needing a bit more iron after 6 months though (not that I ever took any notice, I just carried on feeding ds!!)

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