10months and still breastfeeding

[Slink]

I really want to stop and have tried for months now with different formulas, cows milk breast milk dd will not take a bottle or beaker, a mum at the school suggested putting chillies on my nipples OUCH!!!!!!!!!for both of us, i don't think i'm that desperate, also dd wakes three times in night for feed i don't think i have that much tried to express got nothing help.......

Not sure why you want to stop, Slink....if your baby is happy, and you are not that 'desperate', is an option not just to carry on?

There's no reason to think he would wake less often, and in anycase, you could, if you wanted, deal with that without giving him formula.

tiktok i want to stop because i want to be able to leave her, at the moment i can't AT ALL, she feeds about 6 times a day and then again at night, she is biting demanding and i have no time for my other dd6, dd 10months will stay with her dad for a while but is a very clingy baby very tiring. I have tried to offer a dummy water walk around with her at night wilth no success she just screams she really is as bad as i am saying x

sleepycat don't worry chillies will not be coming near me, i know i need try harder i'm just so shattered xx thanks though

Slink, I don't think this is a feeding issue, really....giving your baby bottles won't make her need you any less.

There are ways to make life easier when you have a baby going though a long clingy needy stage, but preventing her from breastfeeding doesn;t make the need go away (as you've found!).

I have to go out and can't write more but people will come on and share stuff, I hope

thank you tiktok, i think extednted breastfeeding is not what i want to do to be honest, dd will be one in Dec i want to stop dd gets lots of cuddles and we are together all day everyday i have good days and bad i think today is my bad xx

its perfectly reasonable not to feed so much at night if you don't want to by this age. no need to give up bf altogether and it is very useful to pacify the clingy baby.

9months is when i stopped co-sleeping and tried to cut night feeds a bit. dp key here, he had to take over all putting to bed, then plonk baby on me for quick bf and back to cot if he woke in the middle of night. it all worked really well although rather hard work for him. nice to share the responsibility i think

I can't help with the weaning as I am still breastfeeding my 14 month old DD but my daughter was very clingy and use to bite whilst nursing etc...so I can understand why you need something to change.

What helped me was wearing my DD in a sling during the day, I found the closeness very comforting for both of us. Although my DD is an only child, I have heard that using a sling with a younger child, can help mothers have more quality time with older siblings. Plus DH can use a sling too

Regarding the biting, I put on teething gel on her gums a few minuted before attempting to nurse. If she started to bite, I would pull her into my breast with one hand, break the seal between her lips and my breast and place her on the floor at my feet. She soon learnt that biting equalled no milk but it was very hard not to show any other reaction.

HTH

I am still feeding DD and I considered weaning her off at about 10 months but she is intolerent to dairy so that put my plans to one side. I am so glad I didn't stop bf though. Yes- I agree between 9 and 11 months baby was very clingy and wanted to feed constantly(- lots of reassurance and playing with all sorts of cups and beakers worked with soya milk for her but I think that 9-11 months would have been the wrong time to stop as baby became increasing aware of her individuality and also the outside world hence the clinginess) Back to getting baby to stop biting and feeding in the middle of the night. I was told to unlatch baby after a few minutes of feeding or if they bite or pull on the boob(ouch!!)and put back into bed or settle however you normally do. It is a long slog but does work. As far as bottles go, I found the Tommy Tippee breast bottle good but we did not use this one exclusively. We call it the booby in a bottle and she giggles at this idea. We gave her a little soya milk in all sorts of different cups/bottles to get her used to the taste. She has her milk in cup, glass, beaker or whatever vessel we have to hand including boobs!!

Thank you for your replies, i have decided to keep breastfeeding and wait till she is ready as for night i am maggie stopping the feed after a few minutes and putting her in her bed as she has been in with me for the last few months, my dh is great does his best tonite i am out with dd6 to a school friends party so dh has the baby i am worried his not she is really good i think she plays me for the fool i am xxxx thank you all x

Pleased you have made a decision about your breastfeeding, you sound much happier

In my humble opinion I don't believe babies can make a fool out of you, sounds like you are a loving and responsive mum and there is nothing wrong with that

hello, i had the same 'problem', with trying to cut down breastfeeding but ds having none of it, and feeding evry 2-3hrs til a year old (day and night). It has taken a 2 week holiday to America WITHOUT DS for me to stop bf!!! Husband stayed home with baby while I took older kids to family wedding. I was very worried about pscyhcological trauma to me and baby but we've coped well and he sleeps at night now, with cuddles instead of feeds.
i think it is easier to stop bf with the help of someone else.
all the best x

My dh has been trying to take over at night but i think i give in as i can't bear the crying, he feeds her soilds and gives her water and milk from a cup which she will take but still wants breast. wow two weeks away god that was brave, she seems to be getting better over the last few days i don't think i have much milk at night i think she just likes to latch on. But i am going to go with the flow, my dd 6 won't let me kiss goodbye her at school so may as well smother this one before she gets a ll grown up. thank you all xxxx

Yep go with the flow. Far less hassle for both of you.

DS self-weaned, eventually, at just past 2 years. But at that point he was only having one or two feeds a day (morning and sometimes evening if I was home).

She's obviously a child who likes her close comforts. Nowt wrong with that

hope all going ok for you slink