Thought I wanted to be an extended BFer but two weeks away from 12 months and I feel like trying to stop

[Tapster]

I am knackered DD has had 2 viruses on the trot and has woken 2/3 times a night for 3 weeks and my nipples hurt. DD also has never been that interested in solids and preparing 3 meals a day for the last 6 months 95% has ended up in the bin has pushed me to the limit.

When she isn't sick has 4-6 feeds a day and one a night. How do I wean her? She loves boob and even hates cows milk on her cereal she has to have it dry. She bites me (my leg today) when she wants a feed and I try and distract her or give her a snack/water.

BFing was enjoyable it isn't at the moment - I could probably continue for longer if I could feed her at morning and night only I just can't see how I am going to get there.

Any advice?

I think that soya is prepared differently in Japan - something to do with the way it is fermented. Soya products over here are processed in a different way. (Sorry to be vague.) I know that if you want to eat soya products for the anti-carcinogenic properties, Japanese soya is the way to go.

Sorry Tapster - we're going off the point a bit aren't we .

But that is very interesting policywonk.

Fair enough CSWS - although bullocks really as it means I can't go-a-googling to confirm and will now need to finish this essay!

I got Prosobee soya formula on prescrption for hospital so how strange how health bods differ!

Would agree on the Alpro thingy but would presume illegal if in breach of official recommendation - ah there is my excuse to google.

Ta PW - makes sense.

Just like how lots of foods say suitable from 4 months, but official recommendation is not to wean until 6... .

Enjoy the essay!

Aye indeed CSWS.

Essay done thou. Will probably re-read in morning and discover it is shite however

Just got back on - interesting discussion about soya, I might try rice milk instead. She has never had a bottle and I don't want her to start at a year old as that will be something else to wean her off.

I just don't know how to drop feeds - I try and give her a snack instead and she just cries and pulls my top and if I persist she bites me. When I've got enough energy I will go out each afternoon and distract her. I'm knackered as I've got insomnia now as my body doesn't know what time it is after 3 weeks of constant night wakings.

Tapster - have a look at that Dr Sears link I posted below. He is quite good at night weaning I think. Also try Elizabeth Pantley and kellymom

Good luck

Tapster - I planned a couple of really busy weeks when I wanted to cut dd's feeds down. Out every morning and every afternoon, and made sure that I didn't sit down at all in my usual chair, as she would take that as a sign that it was ok to jump on me. I actually found it much easier than I had expected (helps to have low expectations ).

can't get the dr.sears link to work...Once I'm back at full strengthh I thought distraction was the key as its the afternoon milk I want to cut out (again). Problem is that DD is used to having milk before naps and bedtime, that will take longer to solve......

It's: askdrsears.com

I don't know if you co-sleep but Dr Jay gordon is also useful on night weaning

ooooh another link for my collection

oh I am good on links

was less good on actually WEANING my child in the night and so fed many times in the night every night until he was 3

am still often summoned to deal with lost drinks, rabbit shadows, or "I want a cuddle mummy [pause for cuddle]. you can go now"

I have no idea how often DS2 feeds in the night. I just know that I'd like it to be fewer, but have never summoned the will to make an issue of it. From 6am onwards he's pretty much permanently attached.

Just recently he has started to protest (if I try to get him off the breast before he's ready) 'but mammy, it's melted'. I am agog to know what this means, but of course he can't explain it to me.

We are back to try and night wean again tonight we were successful from 7.5-9.5 months (first time she slept through for months was on my birthday ).

Cut out the afternoon feed and the pre-bath feed tonight. I just distracted her and gave her a more substantial snack post afternoon nap.

We succeeded through gradual retreat first time round but now that doesn't seem to work. She would never sleep if I am in the room unless she is attached. Shoot me if you want but I've read Tania Byron's recent book to help the lack of solids and read the bit about sleep too - on day two she went to bed awake with just one yelp, great. She doesn't believe you should let them cry for more than 30 mins (5,10,15 intervals), its limited CC. If DD doesn't sleep after 30mins I feed her to sleep. I wouldn't have done it before now but i'm desperate.

Waking once a night to BF is not the problem its the fact that I find it very hard to get back to sleep at all. Last night I didn't get back to sleep after being woken at 1.50am