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Infant feeding

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Well, it seems that something is bothering him.......

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 20:23

..as he won't stop flippin' crying

DS2 is 11wks and for the past few days has been inconsolable; he really suffers with wind which I think is the cause of his misery, but Infacol doesn't help at all (infact am sure it made it worse). He is bf on demand and has no set routine for naps.

He spends most of the day AND night crying, he only smiles for about 10 mins a day in total. The demand feeding is hurting my nipples, and the stress is hurting my marriage and affecting my relationship with DS1.

Please oh wise ones help us, we are all VERY exhausted and don't know what to do

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MarsLady · 16/10/2007 20:32

He may be going through his growth spurt which would eplain the frequent feeding. How do you wind him? How long have you been using infacol? Have you considered Cranial Osteopathy?

Has this only happened this week or is it a regular thing for your DS?

(I know lots of questions)

moondog · 16/10/2007 20:35

I would think about

1.) Cranial osteopathy
2.) Expressin milk and booking in early for a long uninterrupted night of sleep.
3)Lansinoh cream
4.)Silverette breast pads

My baby was the same-cried every night from midnight to 6:00 am from the age of 3 weeks to 10 weeks. If it is colicky type crying the good news is that he should soon be out of it.

determination · 16/10/2007 20:38

Have you tried Baby Yoga?

Baby Massage

as these will definately help soothe his griping pains..

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 20:43

He has been difficult to wind since birth but was 'OK' up until the past few days (well he was ill for a couple of weeks with bronchiolitis, but even that wasn't as bad as this).

I've tried Infacol for the past two days and it really seemed to make him worse. I have tried winding him over my shoulder, sat up on my lap, on his tummy over my knees..nothing seems to help. We get a couple of small burps but he still seems to have some there. He sort of goes all rigid and struggles whilst feeding and is clearly uncomfortable afterwards most of the time.

We seriously can't afford cranial osteopathy at the mo so have to rule that out. (Although it worked wonders with DS1 must add)

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moondog · 16/10/2007 20:44

With second baby i found an electronic bouncy chair to be a life saver.They seem to find that vigorous action very soothing.

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 21:03

Have tried the bouncy chair during the day and it didn't work either

Am now feeding him again as he has been screaming since 7pm

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moondog · 16/10/2007 21:04

Oh dear

Sling?
Car ride?
Each take it in turns to have him for 30 mins while the other gets a break?
Can some other relative come and relieve you?

MarsLady · 16/10/2007 21:09

Try a long deep bath. That can relax them. Lots of skin to skin and stroking (which is where massage comes in handy). When you wind him instead of patting his back pop him on your shoulder (so that his armpits are resting on your shoulder) then using the flat of your hand, or the heel of your hand, stroke firmly upwards until he burps!

I have no idea where you live in relation to Manchester but there is a large Children's CO charity there. Also one in London. They take donations.

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 21:19

Thanks MarsLady I will try the winding tip. He is always lovely and calm and relaxed in the bath but SCREEAAAAMS as soon as he gets out again.

Unfortunately we are a good few hours drive from Manchester. CO around here costs about £40 per sesson (well it did 2 years ago when we took DS1 anyway).

We are going through a bad patch financially at the moment, and the constant crying and lack of sleep on top of that is going to finish us all off! DS1's behaviour has really deteriorated over the past few days too.

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MarsLady · 16/10/2007 21:32

Another thought......... how is he feeding? Is he snacking? Or does he feed deeply? I just wonder if you might need to do some compression Of course it's difficult to know what it is without being there (so I'm trying to cover many bases)

Try googling COs and see if there is anything nearby. We have a guy who does a free clinic once a week you might find someone like that.

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 21:59

He feeds quite well in the day usually (gulping it down), but he could just be snacking at night - we are co-sleeping and he feeds about once an hour. I would really like this to stop so we could all get some decent sleep

Could fast let-down be the cause do you think? I have noticed that sometimes he gags and pulls away, and often I can hear the milk going down.

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MarsLady · 16/10/2007 22:02

Might be. Sorry I can't be more help than that. I'm sure Tiktok will be around soon and will find this thread. She'll probably have more advice for you. I need to go away and think on it some more. In the meantime it may very well just be a growth spurt and if you hang on in there it will right itself within a few days.

If I have any more thoughts I'll let you know but do post and keep me updated.

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 22:06

Thanks for posting and for the useful advice. My fingers are crossed that it will all getter better soon as I'm not sure how much longer we can cope like this

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trixyortreatmalixy · 16/10/2007 22:10

Have you tried cutting dairy out of your diet?

My Ds was like this and it turns out that he is allergic to dairy and eggs.

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Washersaurus · 16/10/2007 22:14

Is it likely to be an allergy/intolerance if it has only just started becoming a real problem at 11 weeks?

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kittypower · 17/10/2007 09:54

My DS was feeding like this, pulling away and writhing etc he also got really bad wind and it was so hard to make him burp - the solution for us was nipple shields and gripe water. the gripe water made him do some huge burps and the nipple shields seem to help him control the flow so he doesn't choke. This seems to be working for us at the moment, but no doubt it will change again soon!

trixyortreatmalixy · 17/10/2007 16:01

My DS fed fine up until he was about 12 weeks old although he was always extremely windy.

Then suddenly overnight he started screaming when feeding and being really unsettled.

Cutting out eggs and dairy definitely helped.

It's an easy enough thing to try and see if it helps.

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Washersaurus · 17/10/2007 20:03

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trixyortreatmalixy · 18/10/2007 17:34

I know, I was pretty gutted to have cut them out of my diet, but I like my sleep a bit more!!

I don't find it too bad as there are good substitutes for most things. It's the cheese that i really miss!

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Washersaurus · 18/10/2007 20:58

Well, I have a confession to make ...not ready to cut out the dairy just yet. Out of desperation I have turned to Gina Ford for help with nap times/sleep periods and it so far seems to be working.

I think the problem may actually be that in the chaos of our lives DS2 was becoming a bit over-tired and hysterical by bedtime.

(NB. The book was a gift, and I am not following any of GF's advice re: bf or to check when I am allowed to drink a glass of water )

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