Breastfeeding -stopping? 18 months

[kafka]

Dd is 18 months and I am slowly trying to wean her, up unitl now she has been bf. I would like to keep one feed a day going last thing or after tea probably for the next year. But I want the feeding to stop to stop the rest of the time. So far so good (2 days in) but concerned that she might get irate about this as she gets older and that it will confuse her. Anyone got into problems with this?

If she's happy with it now she's unlikely to get irate about it later. I think generally by this age they can get the hang of the idea that there are times of day they can nurse and times of day they can't without its being a huge issue.

my dd is 17 months and has 1 feed last thing at night, she's come down from 2 (1 in the morning) in about the last 3 months or so.
she always taps my chest after pjamas, nappy etc to tell me what she wants!
do you offer the breast or does your dd ask for it? i have heard "don't offer but don't refuse" is a good way to go when feeding "older" ones, maybe that might help?

DS stopped completely at 17 months and dd at 22 months-ish. The evening feed was the last one to go and we had no problems talking about milk in a cup for daytime and bedtime mummy milk IYSWIM.

I was just clear about what was what and kept a cheery voice when saying no if I was ever asked for a b/f, but (disappointingly) they both seemed happy to stop at that point.

Now pg with no3 and hoping to keep going til well after 2 this time round .

She does sort of ask for it first thing but dh gives her some juice and banana and she seems ok with that and she has been drinking about 10oz from a botlle over the morning.

I know she wants a feed when she is upset during the day. But I will talk to her about it thanks for that suggestion and explain that we are going to only have feeds at home after tea/before bedtime.

Do feel about it but I do not want to be her sole supply of milk until she naturally weans and feel this is probably an easier age to do it than any older.

My easiest one was my thrid child. She was 23 months and quite vocal. She was also a very violent feeder (biting, punching, etc)

I said to her: it's your birthday next week, and you're getting a little too old to have mummy milk. I think we should stop.

She said: Okay!

Never even asked again.

Could have knocked me down with a feather. I had never expected it to be that easy.

First child weaned at 14 months as feeding was v painful due to new pregnancy. Second took months, finally weaned at 17 months. Not sure why I weaned her then. Was not so hardcore at the time.

kafka - ds wasn't that bothered stopping, but very, very occasionally if dd was distraught and we were at home (I stopped wearing nursing bras once she was just having a bedtime feed) then I would still give her a b/f. That only really happened 3 or 4 times tbh.

I got a good supply of tasty Organix snacks - like the bars and biscuits and we would have milk in a cup and a snack together - she seemed to like that - especially as we often had a story together too. That became quite snuggly and pretty much equivalent to a b/f.

It is a conundrum when to wean if you are going to do it as opposed to letting it happen naturally. I want to cut it back, and keeping it on because she likes it, I like it (though mixed feelings at times) and it is useful as it is always in and there if she needs to increase e.g. if ill.

Thanks for that like the snuggly bookish snack idea, will try that too.

If it's any consolation - dd stopped in February this year and I still have milk! But I don't imagine she would know what to do anymore