It is time. I am more than ready - but I fear the ds2 isn't......

[popsycal]

So Ds2 is 2 years 7 months. He has a brief breast feed in the morning and a longer (but not that big) feed before bed. If we are at home, he might ask in the day but is generally distractable. If I am at work, he talks in the car on the way home about feeding.

I feel that I have done my 'innings' and want to remember the nice bits of feeding him but I fear if I go on a lot longer, it will all be tied up with frustration on my part.

In addition, I haven't been well recently and possibly have post viral fatigue syndrome (which could possibly be M.E. - having tests.....).

I feel the time has come.

Any tips on reducing the stress/upset of stopping feeding at this age?

TIA

Be with him less.
Only thing that really works.
They sort of forget about it.
Well done.You must feel very proud.

my ds was a similar age when i stopped - i went away and stayed with a friend for one night, so he did without, and just forgot really. only asked me once and i said no, you're a big boy now, have some juice etc and he was fine. well done for feeding him for so long and good luck

Thanks Moondog

From next Wednesday evening until Saturday afternoon, he will be with MIL (DH and I have our first child free time in over 5 years ) so that will help. He is fine away from me - he has stayed away for 2 nights a couple of times in the last 6 months.

However, he is very much an 'absense makes the heat grow fonder' boy

x posts - thanks beautifuldays too

the heart grow fonder
argh

Oooh,that might do the trick.
Are you doing something nice?
I dream of childfree time with my dh.

Well. We were planning to go away for a few days (it is our ten years of getting together anniversary next week), but have had to pay out massive amounts in the last months for exploding kettles, exploding cars and various other things. So we are totally skint. So it may be 'stay at home' holiday. But without children

Any tips for refusing ds2?

I think the time away from me MAY help but I fear he will be obsessed on his return.

Oh I think staying home is a terrific idea.
Going away involves so much bloody hassle now.

I gave up at this stage. I avoided loose clothing and full frontal cuddles for a while.

Gosh,that sounds mean but it wasn't.

Moondog - this is what I need to do. Armour to wear in bed, tentative cuddles and painting my norks with perfume.

As an aside, I accidently squirted the left side with perfume earlier today and he was having none of it at bedtime. I was marched off to get a 'beeee beeee weeeeep' to sort out the problem

Sweet!

Aw! Popsy, I weaned ds3 myself as I really couldn't see him self-weaning within the next 4 years! Also we had been ttc without success. Weaning did work, I was pg after 2 months!
I told him the "boo-boo" was all gone. He did cry and get upset but only in the morning when I would normally feed him. This lasted two mornings and then he forgot all about it! I was amazed because he had been a total boob-monster and very demanding.
I do find I get more hugs from him than before which is nice.

I think when he comes back from MILs I may try to avoid feeding him. And I usually express a little when he is away more than a night....but I am thinking I may not this time.

Good idea. If your supply is down, he may be less inclined to stay on, even if he does get round you!