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Infant feeding

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Really worrying moment this evening, what could it be?

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kittywitch · 04/10/2007 23:00

My 5 month old was really screaming this evening ( like normal ), but refused the breast for ages. He's never done this before. Each time I offered it he wouldn't even attempt to suck. But was acting as if he wanted to vut couldn't iyswim. Normally it's a real comfort for him. I felt quite panicked. I hope he's ok tomorrow. Has anyone else experienced this?
Am I just being silly?

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TheWorstMotherInTheWorld · 04/10/2007 23:01

teething?

emkana · 04/10/2007 23:01

I've gone through this at some stage with all of my three children when small, you'll probably find that everything will be normal by the next feed. Sometimes they just get into a state.

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kittywitch · 04/10/2007 23:05

Thanks, could it just be that he was uber cross? It's just so strange. I've never experienced it before and started thinking all sorts of stuff. God you'd think I'd seen it all by now. Just goes to show, each baby is different

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gigglewitch · 04/10/2007 23:12

my three all did at some stage too, it was like they were in so much of a tizz that they forget everything including "boob=milk=nice". baby brainstorm or something.

easier said than done i know but don't join in his panic or have one of your own, he needs u to keep (looking) calm and consistent. He's not able to figure any of this out for himself and please don't take it personally, he is not rejecting u or the milk. am i reading too much between lines here?
carry on as usual, he is much more likely to get over it if everything around stays the same as usual, and you don't feel the need to change anything.
Think i write nonsense now so will stop, hope u SWIM.

susiecutie · 04/10/2007 23:19

My dd did this on more than one occasion. it ws so frustrating. I didnt know what to do for the best at the time. the only thing i could do was not to show her I was alarmed. I cuddled her close instead. At the time i thought she was beginning ot teeth. the first time, she wa a bout the same age as yours. she fed fine at the next feed

The next time she did it, turned out she had an ear infection. she wodlnt feed at all throughout a whole night and just screamed, Like you, it had always been the way i comforted her! there was nothign i could do. I was so upset.

I think it can be just as random as you think it is, if that makes sense! i.e. no reason at all... like giggle has said if you are calm and consistent, your baby will pick up on it and will be fine i'm sure. my dd was if it continues, maybe have his ears checked... it was a long shot for me but it was the cause of the worst night ever!

dorisofdevon · 04/10/2007 23:21

My DD has done this too only way I could get her to settle was to take her outside where the cold air shocked her and stopped her crying don't know what or why she set off but next feed was ok!!

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kittywitch · 05/10/2007 07:26

Thanks everyone.
well he did it again this morning. he wasn't in a state UNTIL I put him to the boob, then he really started screaming.

I squirted some milk in his mouth and he got the idea and began to suck.
Maybe he had breast amnesia, very unusual for a male

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tiktok · 05/10/2007 08:14

kitty, this is unsettling, and it will pass....but sometimes there's no explanation. Occasionally, I think it happens because something has upset the baby. Did he get a fright sometimes recently? Was he left with someone? Have you gone back to work?

The good thing is, as I say, that it passes and it gets forgotten about!

MrsJohnCusack · 05/10/2007 08:48

hey mine has done this a few times (he's 7 months now)

has always turned out to be teething related (Like most of his problems - I have never known such a blimmin FUSS)

moondog · 05/10/2007 08:50

Yes,I had this.

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kittywitch · 05/10/2007 09:36

That's reassuring. In all my babies over the last few years I have NEVER had this

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susiecutie · 05/10/2007 22:50

all your babies? how many have you got? lol

it could well be a teeth thing then you know...

TrinityRhino · 05/10/2007 22:52

gecko did this for a couple of days before she popped out her first teeth.

MsHighwater · 05/10/2007 23:21

My dd did this once when 3 or 4 months old or so. Of course, after a while, I really needed to feed her never mind what she wanted, iyswim.

Anyway, she calmed down and later she went to sleep, unfed. I think we had already introduced a "dreamfeed" at that stage so I waited until she was settled into sleep and then I fed her in her sleep. She took it quite happily which was a huge relief (in more ways than one). It never happened again, I'm glad to say and we never figured out what had caused it.

Might be worth a try.

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kittywitch · 06/10/2007 11:10

Susie over the past 9 years I've had 6. I must say that God has decided to give me the most difficult baby in the world this time round!
It was almost as if he thought " hmm, got a tricky chap here, he needs to go a large family, not for a first timer"!!!

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Swaliswan · 06/10/2007 13:18

My DD does this sometimes and it's always solved by bongela (sp?) or lying her on her tummy until she has a good fart! I get quite frustrated sometimes that she won't eat when she is clearly hungry but she always gets there in the end. I hope that things get back to normal for you soon.

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kittywitch · 06/10/2007 19:21

Thanks

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dm1 · 07/10/2007 23:02

I've had the same.
It's happened a couple of times and trying to encourage her to feed just makes her crying worse.
If you're using a dummy, what I did was to put the dummy and hold her close next to my breast so she was cmforted, sucking the dummy and smelling my milk, and then when she was cakm(ish), I switched dummy for nipple.
Anyhow - 6, woman - how?.... wow!...thought you'd be writing the book!

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