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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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i'm going to have to go out and get some formula if this doesn't get any better.

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bumperlicious · 26/09/2007 17:10

dd is 14 weeks. i've posted recently about our feeding problems but it is just continuing. she just cried uncontrollably for an hour, she couldn't seem to latch on, or if she did she gave a couple of sucks then cried again. i have had to give her some ebm (bang goes my early night - again). i had 5 oz which she guzzled, cried when finished now is zonked out over my shoulder.

don't know what to do. bf group isn't till tuesday, but even then they didn't really know what to do. bf councellor said don't make a big deal and try other breast, but that was 2 weeks ago when it was just the left side. now it is both.

dh has now said this can't go on and we sould put her on bottles as i rang him up crying. he doesn't think anyone can help (they don't seem to be able to) we are going to talk about when he gets home in an hour. i don't want to stop but this is ridiculous.

tried calling lll but couldn't really talk as dd & i both too upset. she has given me her no. to call back later. saw hv today who gave me no. for hostpital ward to speak to bf counsellor but just an answer phone. sorry this is disjointed, but i'm a the end of the line. i really don't want to have to stop. please help.

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Gingerbear · 26/09/2007 22:05

bumperlicious, DS is 18 weeks and has been through phases like your DD. I think it could be low milk supply in the evenings.
I found that I had heaps of milk up to lunch time, then the supply seemed to dwindle in the afternoon, and from 5pm onwards, DS was feeding hourly and not satisfied.

2 things I tried:

Expressing straight after and about an hour after a feed - if you look on kellymom.com, the emptier your breast, the harder it works to 'fill back up' again. look here
turn the heating up, strip off naked (both of you, but leave her nappy on!) and go to bed together - lots of skin contact helps with milk supply, plus you both get a rest.

big hugs, I hope you get through this.

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bumperlicious · 26/09/2007 22:30

Thanks all. Mower, fortunately nights are fine, she sleeps 11 till 7ish which is great.

I always worried about expressing too much as I kind of thought it would mean there wasn't enough for her next feed, but it seems that's not the case.

Thanks guys, I'm a bit calmer now. I just felt so hopeless earlier, scared that I wouldn't be able to feed dd [over dramatic emoticon].

I have some of that More Milk stuff from breastfeeding heaven - it tastes vile but I'm going to give it a go. Don't know if it is the problem, but it's somewhere to start

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Carotte · 26/09/2007 22:31

Glad you're feeling a bit brighter. Now have some cake!

StealthPolarBear · 27/09/2007 08:35

Lorayn · 27/09/2007 08:48

some?
LOTS of cake.
Oats are good for bfing so get a nice helpful friend to make a big batch of flapjack for you

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bumperlicious · 29/09/2007 20:24

Arghhhh, after 2 really good days she is refusing to feed again. Help! She did latch on initially but think perhaps not much cam out now she is refusing both breasts but is hungry. Help!

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StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2007 20:40

can't think of much but bumping at least
have you tried turning the lights down?

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bumperlicious · 29/09/2007 20:58

just managed to get her on after 20 mins of crying by pumping a bit which i guess stimulated the let down. think she is getting impatient. anyone have any tips on getting a let down? does that sound plausible? thanks for the bump stealth.

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StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2007 21:14

I think I have the same problem as you but not as bad. He latches on fine, sucks for a second or two then comes off with a hungry cry. normally happens on a night when I'm empty!

Lorayn · 29/09/2007 21:15

I dont really know what to suggest bumperlicious, but am bumping in the hope someone else does!!!
Try the phone lines again, they really are worthwhile!!

Lorayn · 29/09/2007 21:18

STB, I'd suggest that when your baby is coming off after a suck or two it isn't that you are empty but that he isn't latched properly.

puffylovett · 29/09/2007 21:27

Bumper, have you read this page on slow letdown ? Bound to be some info here on how to stimulate it, and also about the cycle you're in re baby fussing & crying & mum tensing up

www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/letdown.html

StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2007 21:33

Lorayn, I think it's just slow letdown and he's impatient as this doesn't ever happen another time of day, just in the evenings when he's grouchy. Usually changing sides works, if not, dummy in for 20 mins or so until he's more tired (so more patient).
Not sure if bump has the same problem or not though - seems worse

Lorayn · 29/09/2007 21:36

Try hand expressing onto his lips maybe?? I used to do this with DS sometimes and he would be slightly more determined and it would seem to work better iykwim.

StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2007 21:39

Was that for me, bumper, or both?
Well never mind, I might try it anyway
It's a good idea! Thanks

Lorayn · 29/09/2007 21:40

Lol, sorry, anyone who fancies taking it

StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2007 21:44

Well you know I wouldn't want to steal some else's advice

fishie · 29/09/2007 21:50

oh poor bumper, so worrying and stressful. have you tried different position? ds really hated being laid on his rhs so i sort of slid him round rather than turning over.

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