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Proud bottle feeding mamas...

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october92 · 06/06/2020 06:17

Everyone I know did breastfeed, is breastfeeding or is intending on breastfeeding. I want to hear from bottle feeding moms.

What made you decide to bottle feed your baby? Did you feel guilty about now breastfeeding? If yes, how did you deal with this?

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mylittlesandwich · 06/06/2020 17:30

I didn't choose to bottle feed really. I wanted to breastfeed. DS wouldn't latch, just screamed, lost loads of weight. So after much sole searching we switched. A few weeks later he was diagnosed with reflux and could only be fed sitting up. It means the positions I was trying to breastfeed him in would have made him horribly uncomfortable.
I felt so so guilty for not being able to breastfeed. I felt like I was giving my baby something less than he should have. 6 months on however he is perfect and thriving and thankfully most if not all of the guilt is gone.

GrumpyHoonMain · 07/06/2020 01:53

I was breastfeeding and then expressing after feeds and giving it to my baby in a bottle due to a severe tongue tie. I eventually stopped when he started to drink more from the breast as bottlefeeding, even in such a minute way, was such a faff. We all got more sleep after we stopped.

JimmyGrimble · 07/06/2020 02:01

My baby had such a severe tongue tie that he physically couldn’t latch for more than a couple of minutes. I persevered because although they told me he had a tongue tie they didn’t tell me how severe it was. The only way I could get anything into him was him lying on his back and me dangling in front of him. I combination fed for a bit and then he went on a bottle. At seven months he went for cauterisation and they told me it would have been impossible to bf. I felt a bit let down really. Many people just can’t bf and what can you do with a screaming hungry baby who is losing weight but feed him whatever you can?

mam0918 · 11/06/2020 19:18

I originally planned to breastfeed, my DS had other ideas and arrived a month early and my milk didnt get the new schedual so he was bottle fed lol I was very young and didnt know any better so thought thats what I should do and I have since got 2 degree and no longer believe in the be all and end all importance of breast milk.

Everyone I know bottle fed, its really not unusual in the UK (although its actually illegal in some other countries without medical approval which is insane) however when my oldest was born over a decade ago there was a push for midwives to force mams to breastfeed (they where expected to fill a quota). I was physically bullied and hooked up to a huge industrial milking machine thing for hours on end day after day until my boobs bled and I broke down crying and was even told it was because I was a 'bad mother' and that I was 'giving up on my child' - I was 19 and had just had a damn preemie and severe medical complications ffs.

When I had my youngest I mentioned the horror of last time and that I was now a qualified nutritionalist and had made my own choice to bottle feed and didnt want to be forced otherwise and she seemed pretty shocked, she said they dont do that anymore and at the hospital they didnt even mention it this time and where very helpful even giving us free milk to take home.

I am now a medical scientist and as a part of my degree I studied nutrition and formula is called that because it 'formulated' to be balanced, this isnt the victorian era anymore and we arent just putting anything in our children where as breatmilk is only as healthy as the mothers lifestyle (and nobody is perfect) and even if you do everything right it still need to be suplimented. Also children naturally carry their mothers immunity for the first 12 months from the blood passage in utero, it has nothing to do with breast milk.

That said things have changed for the better with safe bottle practices, my eldest did have digestive problems and now looking back its because things werent done as safely back then. We followed the correct advice at the time we just now no better thanks to better understanding of how formula can harbor gastro based bacteria. Its insane that we use to just keep a bottle on the bedside cabinet and use it throughout the night even after it had sat for hours or that we use to use unsterile powder in cold water but that was believed to be the best back then.

I realise I sound a little 'anti-breastmilk' and I'm really not, if anyone breast feeds I wish them the best and I just hope its an informed and safe choice they have made because its the best personal fit for their family not just something forced on them due to fear and pressure without an understanding of the risks it also carries.

mam0918 · 11/06/2020 19:19

re-reading that theres so many typos... my DS hasnt napped today so I'm blaming that lol.

Parker231 · 12/06/2020 07:49

I bottle fed because I wanted it. No guilt or negative issues (they seem to only happen on Mn). Am a big believer in fed is best.

IndieRo · 12/06/2020 08:27

Bottle fed my 3 children. Originally wanted to bf my oldest but had a tough pregnancy towards the end, ended up with an emergency c section and she weighed 10lbs 14. I was too exhausted to bf. I think bottle feeding is great. You know exactly how much they take and it gives Daddy time to bond and feed baby.

BertieBotts · 12/06/2020 09:21

Had to combo feed DS2 for a while. It was difficult... I can't really describe it because while I absolutely don't think formula is wrong or judge anybody using it, I still felt this sense of "Yes but it's okay for other people, not for my baby" so I suppose I still had some level of judgement about it on some level.

After getting my head around it, it just started to feel like what it is; an appropriate food for babies.

Unfortunately we didn't have any benefits like DH being able to do night feeds or better sleep because he would have his evening bottle and then demand BF as well, even waking up specifically to do this :o

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