Practical advice for getting some sleep

[Helbelle17]

DD2 is a week old and we are breastfeeding, although she's lost a bit of weight so we're on a feeding plan as of today.
She will not be put down at night at all, so I'm getting zero sleep. Even after a formula to up, she wants to be held, or to feed/ comfort feed. She won't settle for my husband at all.
I understand why she's doing it, completely get the theory, but I need some practical advice on how to get some sleep. I can't do this for much longer. We have a 3 year old as well, to and DH will be going back to work soon, so I won't have the luxury of sleeping in the day.
How on earth can I get her to settle in her next to me?

Have you tried feeding her lying side to side? Luke this: www.verywellfamily.com/side-lying-breastfeeding-4083028

I find that sometimes my baby - who epically does not enjoy being put down, ever - can ease into sleep that way, and then we're lying down anyway so there's no joggling him about to settle him down afterwards. Best of luck!

She's only a week old, so try not to worry too much as it will get easier. Right now, she needs to be close to you for survival and I agree it's exhausting in the early weeks. You can co-sleep safely, which is what I resorted to with DD1, and I never looked back. Alternatively, if dad is around, he will have to stick it out for a bit until she learns that he's a safe space too. Standing and walking (in a sling if available) will help her settle with him quickly.

Hang in there, it does get easier x

I was in the same boat as you. I ended up cosleeping. I'd BF, top up with formula and then lie down to feed again and we'd both fall asleep. Still doing it at 10 weeks, minus the formula top up. Not sure where it will lead and I'm probably creating sleep associations, but it's about survival I reckon.

Same kind of thing as keha here - never planned to bedshare but read up on safety and quickly felt comfortable with it. We are lucky enough to have a spare room my husband can sleep in so more space for baby and me. Also still sharing at 13 weeks... Adjoining cot gets used for playing in at daytime rather than sleeping at night! (have used, but I still had to be alongside or he'd protest... And lying across cot and bed wasn't especially comfortable.) same thoughts about survival, and I have limited sleep deprived brain for considering changing it, especially as baby suddenly got worse at sleeping a week or so ago. Sigh