If I go away for weekend w/out dd will this mean end of bf?

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

Before I continue I should point out that dd is going to be 18 months when this weekend away is happening.

I am feeding dd a couple of times a day and at night and we co-sleep.In October I am going p to yorkshire to meet up with siblings and scatter my dads ashes and am considering whether i can really leave dd behind. I think dh is keen on idea of a couple of nights sans dc's ... I am a bit less certain.

It will be an emotional weekend anyway so if it ends bf'ing as well before dd is ready I would not be hapy.

Has any extended bf'ers out there been away from their dc's without stopping the feeding altogether. Any advice...?

I imagine we could bring dd with us and let gp's loo after ds (3) - but after 3 years maybe it is time for me to spend a night or two away from dc's? Very conflicted about this to be honest. Can anyone straighten out me head?

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You should be fine as your b/feeding is so well established.Towards this stage,mine were going a couple of days between feeds and milk was still there.

Go,without the kids, and have a lovely time.

(Maybe take a breastpump just in case...otherwise dh will have to er...suck you off.Happened to my sister although her baby was tiny.)

I did this several times from when ds3 was 18 months to when he was 2 years. I did take my pump with me and tried to pump as often as I could. BTW if you do this, don't use Avent storage bags to transport milk home in. They leak!

Thank you moondog that is reassuring. I think I am a bit panicky at the thought of a weekend w/out the dc's tbh and bf is just part of that.

Cheers chipmonkey - I haven't pumped for so long - I can't imagine I would be able to get anything out! but I would probably pump and dump anyway.

don't worry! I was away from dd1 for 3/4 days at a time, twice and my supply returned without any problems whatsoever
the joys of extended bf
you could take a pump if you got uncomfortable.
I am very sorry for your loss.

Thank you Harpsichordcarrier I appreciate your condolences - it is actually 15yrs ago this week that dad died so it is a long (and irrelevant to this thread) story about why he is only having a scattering now! However the weekend will bring back many memories and I am worried that missing my children will make things worse - while dh who obviously never met dad wants a weekend of child free relationship time iykwim.

anywho - gotta get dc's to bed will check ba[ck laters... thank you for your replies ~

Hi there, my daughter is a little older than yours, and only feeds once every day or two. (And only for a few seconds, but milk is still there). A few months ago, while staying at my parents, she asked for a feed, and as my dad was going out, I said "wait a minute until grandpa goes out" meaning so that i could say cheerio to him, although as he is a bit about me feeding a two-year old, I was quite happy he was on his way out.
Anyway she had her feed, then didn't ask again for five days, until we were back home. I was a bit sad, thinking that I'd chased her off without meaning to. Once home again though, she asked again for mummy milk, and is still feeding now. While we were away she said my "mummy milks" (norks) were sleeping, and I queried this when she asked to feed once we were back home. Her reply - "they've woken up now!" as if it was the silliest thing I'd ever asked.

I reckon you should be fine. I had day and a half away from my ds when he was around 14-16 months.
The only problem was the engorgement discomfort. It wasn't as obvious as when you are feeding a new baby, but I remember feeling a bit dodgy because I went too long before pumping. If you try to set aside half and hour in the middle of the day and again later on then you can relax and give yourself a chance to express. It doesn't always work when you are rushing, especially if you feel a little bit stressed.
I hope it all goes well and you have a chance to enjoy your father's memory and influence.

big mouth, 15 years, gosh I imagine it is going to be very emotional for you all.
will be thinking of you
HC xx

Thank you for your replies all - very helpful - I am not so worried about the bf break now

I did mean to come back to the thread last night but I fell asleep while putting dd to bed! I hate that - waking up at 1am with a fuzzy felt tongue - knowing that I have missed my evening - bah... and it happens at least once a week[eye rolling/ shrugging shoulders emoticon required]

HC - thanks yes it will be emotional but will have the beautiful Yorkshire Dales surrounding us - that will help.

Instead of actual pumping, you could try hand expressing in the shower. DS2 has been feeding more than usual over the past week or so as he's a bit under the weather, so I've found myself engorged at unusual times. I find expressing in the shower a lot easier than using a breast pump.

Be aware that because of the emotions, there might be more milk than you expect - my milk lets down at all sorts of emotional upsets , not just my own baby crying.

Hope it all goes well for you and your family