How do I put her down!

[ginandgingers92]

Help please!
My six week old will feed to sleep/drowsiness, take herself of the breast and happily lie on my chest for hours, but the minute I try to get her in the next to me, she wakes up, cannot be settled and so begins
The cycle again. I'm exhausted! I've tried swaddling, safe co sleeping but nothing seems to work so far. 🙇🏻‍♀️

I remember this with my now 6 year old DD2. What eventually worked was having a hot water bottle in the cot which got whipped out before putting her down and a muslin which smelt of me and milk being under her head. Took a good few goes but we got there. Only for naps not all night, co-slept for months. Good luck.

My 8 month old was the same. All I can say is that’s how many many newborns are! Sure some will be chilled and settle wherever but most just want to feel safe on their mum/dad, also the next to me is really not comfy when you consider how warm and soft and snuggly mummy’s arms are. I bought a sleepyhead and he eventually would settle in that, but in the end we ended up following safe co sleeping advice and he still sleeps on my bed with me now for some of the night.
For daytime naps I used to use a sling carrier thing so I could eat and get stuff done, and at night I actually just propped myself up slightly and had crappy sleep dozing with him on my chest until I started with the sleepyhead.
I know they’re pricey but they make baby feel snuggled and he still uses it in his big cot so I’ve gotten every penny of use from it!
Some babies have reflux issues which is why they want to be on their front - just something to consider too! But it is totally normal, baby has been tucked up warm and cosy and safe for so long. Google 4th trimester, that really helped me.

My son did this. We took it in turns to have him sleep on us and co slept a little later taking it in turns to sleep for a few hours (3 hours uninterrupted is the key) in a different room. Whatever the books say, it's very common that babies do this and it helped me to cope when I stopped trying to "fix" him. You may find a solution that works but remember that it's normal (exhausting and annoying, but normal).

She has Co slept on one occasion, but the advice is never to do it if baby is born before 37 weeks and was less than 5lb at birth (she was both of these). I'll give the Muslin/hot water bottle idea a go though! And look into getting a sleepyhead for daytime naps. I didn't really have this with my son, so wasn't sure if it's more of a breastfed baby thing?

If you've got a DH/DP you could try using a T-shirt that he's worn as the bottom sheet in the Moses basket. If it you're not using the Moses basket and need bigger sheets, get him to sleep with the sheets for a couple of nights. It's unlikely to work if you use your clothes or if the sheets smell too much if you as they will smell of your milk.

Another thing to try is white noise.

Is she taking a good feed when she's awake, from both breasts?

You could try getting her to feed more in the night by using breast compressions and keeping her awake a bit more.

My DS did this. But at about 7-8 weeks I could wiggle him off my chest into the Schnuggle. If possible get your DP to take turns holding baby at night so you can both sleep. This stage won’t last long and I even miss it now

We used to put my son in the next2me on DH side of bed.

It was a bit of a ball ache when it came to feeding time but we did get more sleep this way.

Best of luck, it does get easier x