@Moviestar
Sorry really long message but may explain better;
I went to the Gp after being advised to do so by the HV. When getting babe weighed at around 7 weeks she has dropped 2 centiles.
The HV said to me "has Bowie been unwell" to which I replied not that I knew of, she just doesn't drink as much as "the side of the tin says".
She told me she had dropped 2 centiles and that I should be getting some help from the Gp.
I think my emotions were still all over the place and I burst into tears that my baby was potentially ill or not thriving and I didn't even realise.
When I went to the Gp, DD had no symptoms other than not drinking what I thought she should be and that was affecting centile growth.
We were advised to change formula to AOTA mil and given baby gaviscon. This bunged her up and then was given lactulose.
Because she didn't poop for days I think her milk intake dropped even more.
I think this is when my anxiety started about her feeding. I have learnt from "your baby's bottle feeding aversion" that all the things We were doing ie. wiggling the bottle to get her to drink the last oz, feeding her when she was sleepy (we were advised to feed her asleep if that's the only way she would take it) repeatedly offering milk, I would get really upset and stressed if she wouldn't drink (but not to the point I'd ever think she would pick up on)
These were all reinforcing her aversion with feeding.
This is absolutely not a blame game, however I saw so so many professionals, she ended up in hospital, a GP literally said the words to me "im stumped, I don't know", so much medication for reflux and all along it was me not realising that I was pressuring her.
The first page of this book had me in bits, it was as if I had wrote it myself, I finished the book in a night and started the advice the next day.
She is still averaging at 28oz a day, all awake, all mouth open waiting. Honestly changed my life.
I contacted the author to thank her, she told me that unfortunately and understandably medical professionals are looking for a medical answer not nessasarily to the mother or behaviour.
Bowie's milk intake went up when we changed formula for around 7 days, then again for a while when we were given omperazole pills (that we believed stopped working) and again when we were given the "magic medicine" liquid omperazole.
I asked the author why she showed signs of improvement and then stopped after so long. What she told me, looking back, is exactly what happened. She told me lots of mums when they are desperate for help feel a weight has been lifted when the baby has been assessed and medicated. We then "back off", relax, and the healthy feeding cycle starts. Until Dd would randomly refuse a bottle sending my anxiety through the roof.
When we got back from the hospital she hadn't fed for around 12 hours, we gave her the medicine and probably through pure hunger, she sank the whole bottle. I then left her to be for the next 3/4 hours and she drank the next one.
It is so damn obvious now I know.
I understand lots of baby's have medical problems but I now just want everyone to know about this possible cause.
I'm just a first time mum, bit ocd, bit obsessive, completely obsessed with Dd and simply just wanted her to feed and be well.
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