I've just been to the most bizarre party

[hotcrumpets]

Where i was told amongst other things that

Breastfeeding would cause DS to have reflux

That it's all well and good saying breast is best but in reality you can't actually feed a baby properly by breastfeeding

That you can't feed him again you only fed him 15 mins ago (see I said that you can't feed a baby purely breastmilk)

Said woman then asked if she could hold DS and started cooing "ah you want a bottle don't you" when he started to cry

Ah isn't he tiny, well yes he is he's only 3wks old and no actually he isn't that tiny he's put on 2lbs since he was born and didn't even lose anything after birth

DP got me out of there as soon as possible I think he thought I was going to explode.

I'm not sure if I should be angry, feel sorry for her, or just be bloody amazed.

What shocked me most is the other women sitting around nodding at this crap, I felt like I was in a parallel bloody universe.

I think MN should produce a large sign with PARP written on it so when you meet folks like this you can hold it up at them (or batter them with it).

What does PARP mean?

Quint - Parp is what you write when you don't want to comment on a thread because it will make you angry but you want to express your dismay that someone has posted something so asinine (or contentious).

thank you

lol at snowleopard squirting

i find that pointing out the fact that "mammals" are called "mammals" because of "mammary glands", and it is only "mammals" who produce milk (the ideal first food for an infant) for their young. thus, breastfeeding is what defines us as mammals.

agree, though, that a lot of mums who had kids in the 70's were pushed to ff as it was "advanced" that's what happened to my MIL, which is why dh only got bm for 6 weeks.

i thought of this thread yesterday though, when i was in a shop and the lady behind the counter was cooing over ds, and i said, "Yeah, it's a good job he's cute at half 3 in the morning!" and she asked me if i was still breastfeeding him, and then told me that he might need a bottle. I told her politely but firmly that breastmilk was all he needed, and that formula was unnecessary. i don't know if she believed me, but if enough people spread the word, opinions can be changed, so well done you for fighting the good fight!!

I am so jealous of you all!
My 2 were ff, though not through choice. DS1 was 8 weeks premature - I expressed for a few days, but then my supply dried up. I got a serious infection and was on intravenous antibiotics. Never tried to express or bf again.
DS2 was 5 weeks early. I had GALLONS of milk!! Was expressing bucketloads every day. Was told that my 'nipples were too flat to breastfeed' WTF?
Was given NO support whatsoever, so gave up. Would have loved to have bf. Keep spreading the word - can I join in?

Nat1H - i'm sorry you were given such rubbish advice. even if you have flat nipples you can bf, i have a lady on my PN thread who has flatt nipples and she manages to bf very successfully with nipple shields (although i understand some mw's don't recommend them). FWIW, i wouldn't have managed to bf as successfully as i have without the support i've been given, both on here, on other bf-ing forums and in rl from the Baby Cafe and LLL, especially since I was given very lazy advice from my hv (who at 7 weeks told me to give ds a bottle when he was going through a growth spurt, and at 11 weeks told me to wean him onto solids as he'd doubled his birth weight! )

the misconceptions are everywhere - get yourself tooled up with some good solid facts (kellymom.com) and get out there and start busting some myths!!

Nat1 - I got told the flat nipples thing too. I remember thinking at the time 'Oh, but they're the only ones I've got!!!!' That was with my ds who I sadly did not manage to bf.

DD now 6 months old and I cracked it. No-one tells you, but if they get started on niplpe shields to draw the nipple out, those suckers just get longer and longer and longer and now.....well, they come in very useful for keepin me knees warm!

I hope you won't tar all 'about 50' year olds with the same brush - I shall be 50 next year and wouldn't dream of saying such tosh. Sorry you had to put up with this onslaught at what should have been an enjoyable event.

'at 11 weeks told me to wean him onto solids as he'd doubled his birth weight!'
Wow, my 8 1/2 month old still hasn't doubled his birth weight! Does that mean he shouldn't be on solids - Birth weight as far as I'm aware has nothing to do with growth rate afterwards - he was a very big baby and now is more like his mum and dad - long and slim.
HC, Sounds terrible, am glad you were strong enough to not let it affect your feeding choice, I'm very lucky I've never come across anything like this, I do remember getting very upset when the hv suggested that if ds's weight continued to go down the percentiles that we would need to discuss feeding solutions - we never had to go down that line as I didn't go back to the HV for ages!