My LO was weighed yesterday and is putting on weight very slowly. She is 4mo and weighs 12lb 14oz. She has problems with reflux but has not been vomiting for a few months since she is on the right medication and seems to feed well and often. She is EBF but I worry maybe it's something that I'm doing wrong? Now that she is 4mo she wants to look at everything during the day and I worry that maybe I haven't been persevering enough to get her to feed longer or maybe because I'm trying to get her to sleep longer at night she isn't taking in the calories? Sometimes she will sleep 7hours then 3.5hours and then 2 hours to feed but other nights she will be up every 2-3 hours to feed.
I also read somewhere that the 4mo sleep regression can happen because they are getting their calories at night so to encourage them to feed during the day but I feel too guilty to do this if she is not putting on weight well. My DH thinks that we should be encouraging her not to feed as much during the night and that we should rock her back to sleep instead but I just think she is still so young and she definitely cant go more than 7 hours without needing a feed. I would feel so guilty about this if she was genuinely hungry.
She is now in the 25th centile and the HV said not to worry because it's probably because I am petite that my LO will be too but my HV also told me for months she didn't think my LO had acid reflux and would only admit it once a consultant at the sick kids confirmed it. Infact she made me feel like I wasn't coping because of sleep rather than acknowledging I was worried about my LO (I could do without seeing my HV tbh she's not very helpful at all).
What do I do basically? I feel like I'm failing my LO 