Weaning 15 month old

[Eminybob]

DS2 is a total boob monster. He would breastfeed all day and night if I let him.
He started nursery in January and is perfectly fine there. Eats well, sleeps well, doesn’t miss me.
But when we at home together it’s a different story. If I’m in the room he will whinge and cry and grab at me pretty much constantly. He might be fine and go off and play for 10 mins, then the minute something mildly upsets him like he drops a toy, or trips over, he’s running over wanting up on me.
He’s fed to sleep and wakes multiple times per night.

Enough is enough. It’s time to stop but I just don’t know how.
Everything I’ve read says drop one feed at a time, but he doesn’t have set feeds at set times so I don’t know how that would work. And if I refuse at any time he gets so upset. Then he gets himself hysterical until I eventually give in.

Please help!

Any ideas?
Currently listening to DS crying whilst dh is trying to settle him to no avail.

Aw I remember this well, it will get easier
For us dh had to take over, we got a toddler bottle (possibly a Nuk one) and filled with cows milk, but you could try water, and he was offered that when wanting breast or comfort in the night. He wolfed the milk down, I wasn't keen on introducing a bottle at that age but we did what we had to. And once he'd settled in to a routine, after a couple of weeks, we replaced the bottle with his beaker filled with water so night time wakings were not very exciting and he sleeps well now. Good luck x

It will be very tough but you just have to be consistent.

I wouldn’t bother trying to introduce a bottle at this age, especially since they’re not meant to be good for teeth. I would start by offered water in a tippee cup during the night so that you are only feeding during the day. Then, once he has topped expecting to be fed at night time (this took about 2-3 weeks for us) start introducing a cup of milk during the day so that you’re only Breastfeeding him morning and bedtime. I chose to drop the bedtime feed last and swapped it for a banana (they help with sleep) and a cup of milk. I did this over the course of about a year and eventually cut the bedtime feed when my son was 2.5 years.

I got dh to do bedtime and night wakings last night, and it was tough but he did eventually go to sleep without me. He gave water when he woke. Hopefully it’ll be easier tonight.

I’m actually trying cold turkey. I know he can go all day without, he drinks cows milk happily already, plus plenty of cheese and yoghurts etc so I’m not worried he’ll miss the breast milk nutritionally.

I’ve not fed him since yesterday morning as he was at nursery all day yesterday. He’s been a whinge bag this morning but so far I’ve managed to distract him with food and drinks. But it’s only 8.30 so it’s going to be a long day! And I don’t know what I’m going to do about nap time as dh is at work. I guess I’ll just have to wait until he’s super tired.

I didn’t want to do cold turkey, I wanted to try and cut down, as pp said, but I just couldn’t make it work. I think it has to be all or nothing.

He’s currently happily playing and snacking on some rice cakes so we’ll see how it goes.

Have you thought of night Weaning? The Dr Jay Gordon’s method is very gentle and being weaned at night might give you the break you need