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Painful feeding 14m old. Am 4m pregnant. To continue or to quit?

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GruffalOH · 29/11/2019 20:49

This is the point I had to stop feeding my eldest. When 4m pregnant with my 2nd. It was agony. But she was almost 3yrs and I could explain it to her that we were stopping etc, and comfort her with words when needed.

I'm now 4m pregnant again, but my 2nd is only 14m and so doesn't have the same ability to understand if i say we're stopping. So it would feel more cruel to just stop?! Does that make sense? (She feeds to sleep, and once in the morning though that one can be more easily distracted from).

So... do i plough on through the agonising pain and possibly end up tandem feeding, or do i use this pain to kick start the weaning process? (Obvs she's already on 3 good meals a day. She doesn't drink milk though, so no other milk intake, and she's not showing any interest in starting to drink cows milk. Just ignores the stuff).

Those with experience, does the nipple pain continue to 9m of pregnancy, or will it get better again soon? Not desperate to tandem feed tbh, but would possibly prefer that to causing unnecessary stress to my daughter by stopping whilst she doesn't fully understand why. She might not be as stressed by it as I'm imagining though I suppose!

Any advice appreciated :)

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Maltay · 29/11/2019 20:59

No advice as I'm a similar boat.. I've started to give my 14mo a bottle of milk for story time/relaxing time and then when she's finished messing about biting and doing gymnastics she can have the boob. The pain seemed to coincide with some serious teething and I think new teeth means they take a while to adjust their latch?

LeaderoftheAteam · 31/12/2019 06:52

No advice as similar here too. Had to stop at 3 months with middle but pregnant again now. Felt very guilty early weaning as my other child wasn't ready for it then but I couldn't continue. She is almost 4 now and still feel bad for weaning her early as she's very sensitive Hmm. This DC is 17 months and not ready to stop, she feeds upon waking, for her nap and twice a night. Doesn't seem like alot written down but feels like all the time. Really struggling at night because it feels like a giant adult is latched on (she's teeny so it's just hormones). Just trying to persevere, as she's small and does use it for comfort. I have tried to wean gently at night slightly as she was waking 3/4 times a night, so I offered grape juice mixed with water a few nights and now she wakes at about 2 and at 5.30 and feeds until 6 when we get up. So nothing to help you, just support that you are not alone I guess! Good luck.

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