Dropping day feeds? When?

[onetimeonlyy]

DS is 9 months, will be going nursery two days a week in two months. He's a good eater but a terrible drinker of water so I'm always careful to make sure he still gets milk. He has two feeds a day plus an early morning and night feed. During the day he breastfeeds and falls asleep instantly for a nap. We are having a terrible time with night sleep so im trying to drop the feed / sleep association.

When did you stop giving day feeds?

I bf DD and I honestly don't know how some people can manage to drop feeds/change routines.... When she wants to nurse she wants to nurse! She's definitely in charge of the BFing not me. Sorry I don't have any actual advice. If it helps when she's not with me she's fine and nursery have got her into a good routine. But she has definitely increased the amount she bfeeds since she started nursery, I feel it's probably making up for lost time and helps make her feel more secure so I'm happy with it.

8-10 mo sleep regression. It's not an association/ habit to break, it's a tool to help maximise sleep. They'll wake anyway and it's just 100x harder to resettle them otherwise.

I didn't stop day feeds so much as notice that DS stopped asking or could be persuaded with a snack as an alternative. We stopped day feeds about 18 mo and then gently nightweaned at 21ish mo and finally dropped the slightly ridiculous/ superfluous mess about at bedtime boob a month or so later.

It is very normal for babies to reverse cycle (BF more when together, including through the night) when they start nursery.

Plus it's 2 months away, baby may well change their habits themselves by then. If baby doesn't accept milk from an alternative source, nursery will just have to offer water and hope he drinks. DS is still pretty bad at drinking enough at nursery, he just has more water when he gets home on those days

He is a waking every 30 mins and some nights I honestly have an hours sleep so I have to help him sleep without breastfeeding as it's killing me!

Cool, I won't stress about the day feeds though. It's such a lovely thing to share with him I do want to for as long as possible ❤️

Co sleeping is the only way I can cope with booby monster x

I don't think he wakes because he's hungry. All feeding has always been initiated by me.. He's very casual about feeding! He just wakes constantly and is upset so boob has been an easy way to soothe him but now he can't self settle

Self settling is largely a myth peddled by sleep training advocates anyway

DS now figures it out himself with occasional chat of 'want to cuddle mummy' over the monitor but he's fine by the time I walk through. But he's now 2.4