Should breast and bottle feeding be split into two topic titles?

[mears]

Will that stop bottle feeders being offended by breastfeeders?

WHAT?? What about us mixed feeders??? Perhaps we should have a seperate topic too???

I've started threads in recent weeks in which both breast and bottle (Formula) feeding was involved.....where would I put it if they were seperate???

Hm perhaps we could have categories for threads split up by age of children? Relationship threads split by married or living with partner?
Would such separate sections be passworded or anything to stop people who should be in the other section coming on and posting their comments anyway? Which lets face it a lot would!

I am starting to wonder if i am blind or just plain thick.

time and time again i read on mumsnet that b/feeders are offensive, aggresive, attack formula feeders, are patronising, preachy & judgemental, but not once, not once ever, have I seen that kind of behaviour or attitude coming from a breastfeeder on mumsnet.
(or in the world actually).

Many times examples have been asked for but they have never been produced.

I think the topics should be seperated, definitely.

Mears I can soo understand your frustration, am feeling it.

why its all about feeding babies,shouldnt matter where milk comes from.

actually rainbow there have a been a SMALL minority of MN'ers (and sadly in RL that I've met personally) that have that attitude. HOWEVER the most don't.

the queen of quotes... i've YET to meet them then eh?

yes - they're VERY few and far between. Think I've met 2 in RL (first was when I was BF'ing DS1 - who'll be 7 next month - eek) and another a few weeks ago....when mix-feeding DS3 (unfortuantely - for them - I didn't meet any while FF'ing DS2).

The ones online only pop up once in a blue moon (ie about 2/3 times a year) - so you'd be luicky to find one.

I think that if everyone exclusively bf or ff it would work without a doubt. But what about those her mixed feed or give the occasional bottle. It may be hard to work out where to post.

For example - it may seem like a problem with an aspect of the 'bottle' feeding so you post on hte formula board...but is actually a problem giveing a bottle to bf baby so may not get the attention from those who have experienced giving a bottle to a bf baby because the bf'ers stay away from the ff board IYSWIM.

I absolutely think the topic should be split.

But I don't necessarily think bottle feeders are offended by breast feeders or vice versa. Just the attitudes of some.

QoQ, trust you to be controversial. Make your mind up what you want to do woman!

I don't think they should be split. I do wish that they would stop being so contentious all the time. Every thread seems to end in a fight and a lot of the good, helpful stuff that is said gets lost in all the kerfuffle.

Perhaps the topic being split would stop it being contentious though.

but gibber - I like to do things differently with each child (individuality and all that you know [wihnk] -

DS1 - CS exclusively BF

DS2 - induced, horrible, intervention filled labour - FF fed

DS3 - natural (and fast LOL) labour, mix-fed

and besides if it was split I'd probably get confused and post in the worng bit anynow [

parp, parp parp

Consistency is what you need QoQ!

oh i AM consistent at somethings......they were all in bed at 8pm tonight (DS3 even managed to score lots of points with me by crying for 3 minutes before 8pm and instantly falling asleep bang on the hoir - after DH had asked what time he usually goes down in the evening and I'd told him "roughly 8pm - or as close as I can"

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He fell asleep on the hoir? Can't you put him in a bed?

lol

Sorry for the hijack. Back to topic again...

gibberish, as slightlymadspider said splitting it would leave the mix feeders in a quandry as to where to post. And what about the expressers who use a bottle to feed their baby and top up. Its all about the feeding it shouldn't have to be a fight all the time I find it so depressing that there can't be a reasonable discussion about htis topic. I've been upset by some posts but I also had a lot of help from others. Maybe the breast/bottle threads where people are asking for help should have a "leave your judgements at the door" notice. The ethical, moral, personal opinion discussions about bf/ff could be kept seperate and those who find them upsetting would be able to stay away but still have somewhere to go for advice.

wft is a hoir????

nah - he'd fall out of a bed - cot perhaps though

my statement "give the occasional bottle" was supposed to include any fluid inteh bottle, EBM, water, rum, brandy.....sorry if I didn't make that clear

I don't think they should be split. Mainly because the information & help that we read/offer is useful for everyone. There are so many myths bandied about about both methods of feeding that it's quite nice to have them all in the one place where everyone can offer their opinion & read others. I don't know very much about ff, but what little I do know comes from here.

Mumsnet is one of the few forums I've seen that has just one forum like this & I think it works really well & helps bridge the gap between the two methods.

It's also sometimes not as simple as breast or bottle. Many mums do both at one time or will change how they feed for subsequent babies. If it was split into 2 different forums then I'm sure a lot of people would find it hard to know where they should post & you just end up with loads of cross posts & an uncomfortable them & us feeling.

At the end of the day we are all just mums feeding our babies - that's how it should be.

I think that if you split the categories you could end up with even more friction. And actually I don't think that it would be helpful for those mums who want to b/feed, are trying to establish feeding, but are having problems, to have to categorise their messages in a rigid fashion - and wouldn't it be even worse if someone then gave the answer "sorry you should be posting that on here, try over there". What if a new mum has been recommended to top up with formula - how is she going to feel in having to deliberate as to where to post?

I do think that there might be some merit in spliting feeding issues for individuals from national feeding policy/news/advertising items, as I think that the latter type of threads tend to become more contentious.

oh absolutely spdier - DS3 had a vodka and organe before bed tonight