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Bfing non stop, please help!

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Reastie · 16/08/2019 12:19

Ds is 9 weeks and ebf (one expressed bottle during the night).

During the day and evening he nurses constantly. Sometimes actually feeding sometimes just wanting the comfort, but ridiculously frequently. Bar a nap after lunch I’ll be lucky to have a gap of half an hour between, often it’s very constant and evenings are pretty non stop feeding for 2-3 hours most days.

This is not a growth spurt, he has always been like this. He had a tongue tie snipped a few weeks ago but no improvement in frequency in the day (although better latch and seems more efficient). He is gaining weight well and increased from about 10th - 50th centile. I’ve seen a bfing counsellor who has checked latch etc.

If I don’t feed him by trying distracting/putting him in sling/offering a dummy or finger to suck/getting someone else to take him he will just scream until he has a boob. My hv told me most people in my situ end out giving up bfing for ff because it is so time consuming and physically exhausting.

I know part of this is for comfort and bonding to me and I want him to feel secure but I’m constantly chained to the sofa for days on end with an older dc who I have barely managed to take out because of this. I honestly don’t know how I’ll ever get her to school in the morning (a 20 minute drive each way assuming we don’t leave late and get stuck in rush hour traffic jams).

I just feel so guilty to dd and drained from constant feeding and I’m not sure how long I can manage this for but equally I don’t want to do ff unless I have no choice. No one has offered me ideas to improve the frequency of feeding when he’s feeding for comfort so hoping someone here can help as I’m getting desperate!

For background I also bf dd who was never like this to such an extreme.

OP posts:
Reastie · 16/08/2019 12:29

Sorry, typo not explaining myself. I try distracting him from feeding by getting family to hold him/distraction eg singing/changing nappy/dummy or finger etc but NONE of these techniques help (or if they do it’s only a short holding him so I can go to the loo or something else short).

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BeyonceKnows · 11/10/2019 22:33

Hi... Did you ever manage to resolve/improve this? I'm in exactly the same situation and utterly exhausted.

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