6 month feeding like newborn...

[BibbleBrain]

...and is a bottle hater though not complete refuser. Eats every ninety mins won’t go longer than two hours tops and has suddenly started waking every two hours at ninety too.

What have I done wrong? How do I fix this. I’ve mentioned in other posts that HV told me it would fix itself at six months but it really isn’t.

Am desperate for help. I honestly don’t know how I’ve ended up here. Won’t have a dummy and all the feeding is making me depressed. I can’t go anywhere or do anything and apparently have dMER and feeding aversion. Weaning not helping obviously as too early.

Can’t figure out bottles as I can’t aftually see a feed to drop as there are 9-10 of them a day. I have spent over £2000 on breastfeeding help with the conclusion that everything is fine. We’ve had a tongue tie snipped and followed up and while there’s slight reattachment it’s not terrible.

Do you breastfeed then or use bottles or both? Does he just have a small amount with each feed? DS was mixed fed until about 12/13 weeks - when I stopped beastfeeding I figured there was no need to still feed on demand but he was used to having a feed as and when, generally every two hours and not much in one go - I wanted to stretch it to three so over a few days I just kept increasing the gap a little by 10 or 15 minutes - he was obviously hungry but it wasn’t long enough to make him distressed, and then the longer the gap the more hungry they tend to be, so they drink more and can wait longer for the next feed and so on. Worked for me - your DC is older and I guess starting to eat solids so it may not be he same.

Are you starting to wean? I found my eldest became a milk monster when she was ready for solids, and she transitioned really really well, immediately becoming easier to manage (and sleeping better to boot)

Breastfeed with occasional bottle of expressed milk to get me out of house at bedtime. But really struggle. I’ll try by clock see if it works for me.

Yes to weaning not going spectacularly!

And when he does have bottle up to 120ml averages 100ml so slightly under what I can express...

What you're describing just sound like normal breastfeeding to me. My DD is 10mo and I've been on/off feeding for 3 hours now. It's normal to go through phases of being fed of BFing, especially when they want to feed all night long it truly is exhausting. I don't have suggestions I'm afraid but just know there are others like you out there!
From what other women have told me at about a year old they drop feeds in the day as they start eating more. I did BLW which is great but they only seen to eat small amounts in comparison to other methods x

Also what is DMER? Not familiar with the term xq

If only it were a phase; we’ve not had a good day yet! Thanks though - I think I’d just like to feel it was getting easier maybe am just unfortunate or unrealistic and unsuited to it.

I admire you I’m definitely not going to last beyond a year. First sniff of bottle willingness and I think that will be that.

Dysphoric milk ejaculation reflex. Let down (nit latch) painful and makes you feel depressed/ anxious/ upset. I felt same things with first but condition has only recently been recognised. No one knows what it is other than it’s not mental it definitely has physical effects. IBCLC identified it.

Well done for persisting do long if it makes you feel like that! It's bloody hard enough even without that condition. I find I feel very strongly that I love and hate breastfeeding. Sorry I can't give more specific advice, breastfeeding is really tough especially when you have a demanding baby it feels like other people have already got it cracked and you're still struggling for months and months. Hugs xqa