A very sensitive bfing question

[feedingfrenzy]

OK, I've name changed, just because it's such a sensitive question and I feel a bit weird about it.

Does anyone else feel aroused during bfing? I don't mean psychologically obviously, I mean it's my baby, but physically aroused. I've done a bit of a google search and it seems it does happen, and I recently discovered this was the reason my mum gave it up after 3 days and never tried again, but no-one ever talks about this side of things. I find if really off putting. Just wanted to hear if anyone else is affected like this. Does it go or do you just get used to it? Is it common?

I know what you mean it made me ready to have sex, iyswim
dont know if it goes over time as i stopped bf at 6weeks

Turn the telly on.

Fern and Pip Schofield will dampen anyone's libido

I struggled with bf and ended up bottle feeding but I do understand what you mean. There's nothing wrong with this - breastfeeding should be a pleasurable experience and should feel nice - there's nothing wrong in that. Sounds a normal physiological response to me - we are not good about breastfeeding in this country(by that I mean it's not as common as it should be) so we don't pick up all these things. I bet in cultures where breastfeeding is widespread this is an understood response - not actually written about but certainly people would be aware of it.

It's more common than you'd think, so don't worry, you're not a deviant or anything. And hardly surprising, given that the breasts and especially nipples have a sexual function as well as providing food for nippers. I think I remember reading once that it's also to do with the fact that oxytocin is produced during both breastfeeding and orgasm.

You were brave googling that!!
I've changed my name too as I have told nobody this - not even dh. When ds was tiny and we co-slept a lot, I would often wake up having an orgasm whilst he was feeding. I felt quite shocked about it, but whilst feeding during the day there were no feelings of arousal at all. It is a bit though.

oxytocin is produced during breastfeeding...and orgasm

it is why nipple stimulation is recommended as a way to help strengthen contractions at the start of labour or help kickstart labour

oxytocin is given in a synthetic form, synotcinon, to stimulate contractions to induce or augment labour

so it is possible to feel aroused or orgasm during feeding

or for milk to squirt out when you are orgasaming.....

don;t worry or be

tis normal

it is very normal. I know several women in real life and two on mn who have experienced it.
I am going to quote something frm a geta book called Mother Nature:
Some women are unnerved by what they perceive as the "sexual" sensations women experience during breastfeeding.... it may be helpful for all concerned to keep in mind that the maternla sensations have clear evolutionary priority in the pleasure sphere. Long before women found sexual foreplay arousing or intercourse pleasurable, her ancestors were selected to respond positivelyto similar sensations produced by borth and sucking, because finding these activities pleasureable would halp condition her in ways that kept her infant alive."

so the sensations you are feeling are a "maternal"response first, which later became sexual. they make good evolutionary sense, and could not be further from being a perversion.

sorry for terrible typing, am bf

Thanks for the responses. I really appreciate people's honesty and the things that you are saying make sense. I just wish people told you things like this. Maybe my mum would have breastfed me if people had explained that what she was feeling is normal, and maybe other people would persevere.

Thanks

Definitely normal.
But to be honest I was too exhausted to act on it
BF for almost a year and I think I just became immune to it.

my mum said bfing me was really erotic for her, and im not damaged by it!! indeed, i hoped i would feel the same, but it hasn't quite hit the same spots for me. ive more got the other way, when my breasts have stopped feeling sexual at all, and thats a pain in the arse for my long suffering dp.
so don't worry about it, please, and enjoy the fact its as pleasurable for you as it is. its definately wonderful for your baby too.