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Original poster

another silly comment my hv made 'why are you waiting for that magic day to wean '

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rainbow83 · 06/07/2007 20:34

everytime i go for a weigh in (which is quite rare btw) i seem to have a mental rant about the comments my hv makes.

dd2 is 5.5 months old, on the 75th centile on bfeeding alone. instead of telling me how fantastically well i'm doing with exclusive bfeeding, she said 'you're not waiting for that magic day when they turn 6 months old are you to start giving her some food are you?'. aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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maisym · 06/07/2007 20:35

there should be a hv section to put in all the rubbish comments they can make....

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rainbow83 · 06/07/2007 20:36

lol

why are they like that anyway?

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unchief · 06/07/2007 20:37

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MadamePlatypus · 06/07/2007 20:39

To be fair, I told my HV that I hadn't weaned DD till 6 months at her 8 month check and she was really supportive.

mummytosteven · 06/07/2007 20:41

yep, sounds like my HV and other local health professionals, who were fully aware of WHO guidelines but thought they knew better. grr on your behalf.

terramum · 06/07/2007 20:59

Grrrr on your behalf.....That "magic day" is what she is supposed to advise about. Maybe she needs her guidelines printed out & waved at her....or alternatively ask her the name address & phone number of her superior so you can report her for not knowing her job

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rainbow83 · 06/07/2007 21:02

well i actually told her that infact i wasn't waiting for the magic day for her to turn 6 months, coz 7 months seems more magical to me

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schmizaj · 06/07/2007 21:03

May I say how fantastically well you are doing exclusively breastfeeding!!

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rainbow83 · 06/07/2007 21:06

aww shucks

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terramum · 06/07/2007 21:13

Wonder how she would react to my friend who exl bf her LO for a year?

saltcod · 08/07/2007 23:07

My HV (& everyone else!) was amazed that DS was exclusively BF for 6 months coz he was also big (75th centile). It was as if it was a rare feat, and yet I thought we were supposed to wait until 6 months these days ?! I felt like I was the only mother who had followed these guidelines!

moondog · 08/07/2007 23:13

god they talk through their arses
more calories in milk than baby slop anyway duh!

lulumama · 08/07/2007 23:19

you might want to tell her about BLW and watch her brain explode

well done on exclusively breastfeeding....

why on earth does she want you to wean..DD is obviously growing, and developing just as she ought to

i think i got the last sane , sensible and well informed HV in the universe!

moondog · 08/07/2007 23:20

mine were fantastic
fanbloodytastic

yelnats · 08/07/2007 23:40

MY HV isn't bad either - she never really says very much though unless I ask her something which is very very rare. she just asks how we are all doing, weighs dd2, tells me how well I am doing still breastfeeding (5months) and says cheerio. She is really the only person in RL that tells me that I have done well getting this far.

adorabelle · 09/07/2007 00:02

When my dd was 6 mnths old (to the day) I
took her to be weighed.

The HV was horrified when I told her that dd was still only b.fed.

"When will you introduce solids then?Because you know if you don't do it soon she'll have delayed speech"

I left feeling very proud with myself as I was happy in the knowledge that my baby would let me know when she was ready to start 'proper' food and that I had told the silly old bint of a HV so.

She started taking solids at 27 wks, and we didn't have to start on all the crappy baby rice either, we went straight to veggie/fruit puree then a month after that proper lumps

adorabelle · 09/07/2007 00:03

And at 6 months she weighed in at a very
respectable 17lbs on breast milk alone

kiskidee · 09/07/2007 00:44

tell her to come visit me. i will ask her to wail alongside my garden wall while I go fetch my rifle.

whomovedmychocolate · 09/07/2007 06:38

Ha! DD was on the 98th percentile on excl BF and the HV told me to wean earlier to keep her weight down. I laughed in her face then went into the waiting room to share the joke with the other mums who joined in the tittering.

kiskidee · 09/07/2007 09:07

i have seen the pics of your dd WMMC and I think she has been on pork pies since 12 wks.

whomovedmychocolate · 09/07/2007 16:27

cheeky sod! . She is over three feet tall you know at nine months old!!!!

IdreamofClooney · 09/07/2007 16:40

My HV told me "there's never been a baby wieghed as much as your DS"

I was a totally neurotic first time mum whose baby had a tongtie and lost over a pound in the first week, I had a horrendous time expressing and syringe feeding him, was hysterical worrying I wasn;t going to be able to breast feed as never seemed to have any milk and yes I liked to get him weighed as I had not idea of whether he was getting any milk as he did not poo for two weeks at one point

rant rant rant

She also came out with the peach of "sleep leads to sleep" everytime I asked for advice on DS's lack of sleep.

I changed HV when DS was about 10 months and got some decent advice and DS finally slept for a period of greater than 4 hours hurrah

So every sympathy

I think that part of the HV training is learning how to make inappropriate comments to new mums

kiskidee · 09/07/2007 19:11

[whispers] WMMC, it was a joke. sorry. your dd is gorg. from your other postings, i know that you are doing blw.

whomovedmychocolate · 09/07/2007 21:41

Kiskidee - are you a HV by chance?

kiskidee · 10/07/2007 05:56

no, i am not, but if i were, i imagine i would give advice like that. i am sorry if i offended, once more. I do think your dd is v lovely. My friend also has a baby on the 98th % on bm alone and is also planning blw (introduced by me). I did the pork pie remark on her before which she found funny. i guess sometimes things don't translate well over a message board. [bow, scrape]