reducing breast feeding in toddlers

[sleepycat13]

ds is 16 months and still loves to bf
I'm happy with it too and happy to continue for now.

However i do get frustrated when he demands it and pulls at my top and as supportive and 'pro bf' as dh is I know he isn't keen when kids start asking for milk - thanks for that one little Britain!!
it does vary from day to day. some days he will have a morning and evening feed and that's about it but at other times he wants so much more and can be quite demanding with it. the amount he feeds varies too. sometimes it's big feeds at other times he just seems to mess about.
he is teething at the moment so that's been the cause of some of the increase currently but at other times I'm not sure why he wants more.
anyway my question is for those of you that have continued to feed beyond one year or so how did you manage to cut down/ stop?
I'd like to stop when he naturally self weans as don't want to do anything too drastic but equally don't want to be feeding for several more years unless we can significantly reduce to no more than once a day or so.
any tips or tricks welcome

Doesn't your DH every ask What's for lunch OP? Don't babies communicate hunger and their need for comfort and feeding from day one? Perhaps next time your DH asks you to make him a coffee or what's for dinner you could say how you find it really disturbing as he's a grown man asking to be fed

You might find this article on BFing manners helpful too

Do you plan to conceive at all? We were down to 1-2 feeds a day when DD was just over 2 and by 12 wks preg my milk dried up. She just accepted it and it was all very easy. Weirdly now having just turned 3 she doesn’t remember that she ever breastfed!

Quite a drastic measure to stop feeding though if you weren’t planning ttc

Have a look on kellymom.com for help-they are old enough to learn some bf ‘manners’ which should make it easier to continue until you are both ready to stop

16 months is still very young in the scheme if things, but if you want to start cutting back, the things I do is offer a new drink in a fun cup (we don't have cow milk as a drink, only in cereal, so I offer that), distract with a new toy, change habits (dad putting baby down at night, going for a walk at naptime so baby falls asleep without feeding, and during one period of drastic measures, I never sat down in the day because she demanded to feed every time I was sitting. (I even turned our computer desk into a standing desk for a while!)

I would try and make it at set times eg. Morning, nap time, bedtime. Then when you want to wean you can cut back one feed at a time, depending if you want to wean him or let him do it by himself.