i had to STAND up and breastfeed today because some people are so damn rude

[rainbow83]

just want to rant. was in the beloved baby room in boots and dd was yelling place down for a feed. two lovely ladies sitting on chairs having a natter whilst their friend was changing her babies nappy. i expected them to offer me a seat but they didn't so i fed dd standing up, huffing and puffing in their faces, they just looked at me and carried on nattering. i thought it was really rude and this isn't the first time it's happened.

Why didn't you say "excuse me, do you mind if I have a seat so that I can feed my baby"?

That is appalling. I would have thanked them for warming the seats but that I really needed to feed the baby.

dunno really. lack of confidence? they could see fine well i needed a seat, just didnt want to have to spell it out.

Some people need the obvious pointing out to them, rainbow. Next time, look them in the eye and say " would one of you ladies please give me your seat so that I can feed my baby?" - and point out that they won't be able to have a nice chat with a baby screaming the place down!

you need to ask next time
some people are thick and can't see what's in front of them

And you could also point out that the baby room isn't for chatting harridans - it's for changing/feeding a baby

well no, just ask them to shove over, no need to get into one

You feel much better if you smile and say, 'excuse me, I need to sit down to feed my baby'.

Do you have a camera/camera phone? Yes? Goooood

If it happens again, get out camera and proceed to take photograph. When they ask why tell them you intend to stun the scientific world with the story of women who have invisible babies that need to be fed in such comfort

Agnes

If I was feeling charitable I might assume they were pregnant. Both of them

next time .....excuse me could I have a seat - my baby vomits when feeding & at this angle you'll both get covered.

lol maisym

A lady was in the cubicle next to me in a big Dunnes Stores in the city the other day & she kept talking away to her wee baby, I could hear the sound of a baby feeding, lots of slurping & small sighs etc...

Then I opened the toilet door to wash my hands & saw the poor woman sat on a toilet seat, breastfeeding her baby... I had thought it was a small feeding cubicle, I don't have small babies anymore so hadn't paid any attention.

I asked her if she would like me to look for a chair for her, or if there was anything she needed..she seemed overcome with shock & started chatting to me about the lack of feeding rooms available & that she was feeding her dd on demand & she had to keep finding small quiet corners to feed... I encouraged her to be proud of breast feeding & not to hide away in corners

Felt like a right mammy... despite me bottle feeding both my kids, standing there lecturing her on her rights

It's foul that people feel they have to hide feeding a child, be it from breast or bottle.

Recently I had to get pointed at some self-centred twerps. My friend needed to feed her son at a busy function. There weren't many seats about, but she found one with no bum on and asked those near it if she could borrow it to feed her wee one. Those near, henceforth referred to as 'the twerps' said she could indeed borrow it, but they would need it back as it was 'reserved' for someone.

Friend said thanks, took chair a sum total of about three feet away and proceeded to give her son his feed. Until the missing twerp arrived and stood over her looking disapproving until she felt she had no option but to stop feeding her son, give the twerp the chair and go find a corner on the floor so she could continue the feed.

I was raging when I found out, and went on a recce to find a chair, plonked it down in front of the twerps and loudly proclaimed to my friend that I had found a chair for her so she could continue feeding in comfort. The group of twerps just looked more twerpy.

Made me feel better though, and made my friend laugh.

Agnes