Sensitive topic re: breastfeeding

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I'm a regular but have namechanged (a few of you may know who i am but please keep quiet, ta) as i'm really really embarassed by this.

when i'm bf-ing ds, i can sometimes feel myself getting turned on. there, i said it. bf-ing makes me want to cut my clitoris off. it's awful. i hate it. when i was first feedinghim he had a really strong suck and it hurt quite a lot, but now it's settled down and he has a bit of a fluttery suck (or my nipples have gor used to bf-ing) and it feels much softer.

if anyone has any advice i'd be really grateful.

I have friends who have the same experience, a bit disconcerting but perfectly natural.

Hope someone can come and give you some advice.

It's unusual, namechange, but not at all unknown and it is physiological and hormonal, nothing more.

Seems some women are hypersensitive to the surge of oxytocin that comes with breastfeeding, and this is the same hormone released during sexual excitement.

It tends to die down as breastfeeding becomes established - probably the body learns to distinguish what's happening.

You'll probably find it stops very soon.

Hope this helps.

When I was at university I was doing a course on the mother-daughter relationship and the lecturer who was in her 40's was taking about women getting orgasms from breastfeeding. All of us naive little 20 year olds were completely freaked but there was 4 or 5 mature students in the room who had had children and they all agreed with her. I think it is totally normal and there was definatively a time when my nipples gave me that sort of sensation when feeding but as tiktok says it is something that may change over time (and over teeth!) - the sad thing for me now is that I have big breasts and they were a major part of our sex life but now I think breastfeeding has destroyed all sensation in my nipples and if dh goes near them it just reminds me of breastfeeding and it's a total turn off. If he sucked hard enough for me to feel anything he'd get a mouthful of milk which I can't bear! . I can totally understand your worry and embarrassment but it doesn't mean a thing, it is one of those nightmare physiological things when our body doesn't behave as we would like it to. (hope I haven't let myself down, maybe I should have name changed too).

Jenkey - the sensation will come back, if my experience is anything to go by. Be patient.

Jenkey - the sensation will come back - I lost it all with DD1, regained it in pregnancy with DD2, lost it for a bit but now it's back (particularly when I'm ovulating and then I just wish it would go because BF is so painful).