How do I stop/cut down bf an 18 month old?

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Probably going to sound pathetic but asking this question actually breaks my heart. My DD is almost 18 months and still bf. She loves bf which it why this is going to be so hard. She still feeds very regularly throughout the day with a couple of night feeds. Whilst I still love feeding her and a very big part of me is not ready either. Another part of me wants it to at least cut down. We hope to start ttc DC2 when she is two so I feel this gives us 6 months.

Has anyone got any advice on how to go about this without causing distress to my DD?

I thought by now she would have naturally cut down to maybe one or two feeds a day but it just hasn't happened.
Even when we are out and you would think she is distracted she still comes over asking for it. I think this is part of my reasoning as the older she gets the harder I'm finding to do it in public.

Any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated . TIA

Anyone?

There is a group on Facebook called "breastfeeding while ttc" or something to that effect. You don't need to wean to get pregnant again. If you're not ready then don't put pressure on yourself. Have you a local L L L group?

I can think of two ways. Cut out all feeds after first morning feed and all afternoon by distracting her with toys, stories and games. Feed at naptime and bedtime as usual. Alternatively, cut out all night feeds by sending your partner in to settle her.

Thank you @CassandraLamontaigne I will look at the Facebook group. I am so unsure I think if we were just feeding a couple of times a day morning/evening then I probably would carry on. I'm not sure about LLL group I will have to look into it. There is a bf group near me but it always seems to be mums with tiny babies learning how to feed .

My DD is a little bit younger but I would say start with night weaning, just offer water and cuddles. My periods came back when we night weaned around 10 months. DD was very cross on night 1 but it was shouting rather than tears iykwim.
Now at 14mo I'd like to cut down to just morning and evening feeds so have started distracting during the day - not saying no, but saying things like 'lets wait until after lunch'. I think the key thing when at home is to never sit down

I am following this because my dd is almost the same age and I can't see her ever stopping bf. She does eat food but her main intake of calories is definitely my milk. Night's are the worst she has at least 3 feeds. If I offered her water she would go mental haha.

There is also an Irish fb group called "extended breastfeeding Ireland" you could look for one similar, there's probably an English one (if that's where you are). Though I suppose the joy of fb is it has no physical boundaries.
As a pp said you can delay and distract your dd and reduce feeds that way
Check out the milk Meg and kellymom websites for more info if you haven't already

Thanks everyone think I am going to have to try distraction techniques abit more. I have been doing the don't offer don't refuse. However realised this hasn't reduce feeds at all.
I have offered water at night it resulted in a sippy cup flying across the room  will have to give it another go.
@bobstersmum we are definitely in the same position. My DD loves her milk even though she has three meals a day.

Delay, 'after .....', 'before bedtime' etc

Distract - have small toys etc scattered around the house to distract her with as soon as she asks. Get your OH to do much more in terms of feeding and offering drinks.

Don't sit down

Following with interest as I was about to start a thread like this myself. My DS is 20 months and seems to have increased rather than decreased feeds (even though he generally eats very well), he seems to have some separation anxiety at the moment which isn’t helping matters. He feeds multiple times a day, and at least 3 times a night, often more. I tried to nightwean recently, but gave up after a few weeks as he was still fighting it as much as when we started! I’m shattered and really struggling with work and life generally!