Negative breastfeeding comments

[Someoneelsee]

I'm heading towards 5 months in to EBing my son and happily doing it wherever and whenever. Walking round the shops, sat in a restaurant, walking on the school run, you name it.. I've never been met with anything other than support. Whether it's the waitress asking if I'd like my food taken back to the kitchen to keep hot, shop assistants offering me a chair, offered glasses of water etc I can't imagine anyone saying anything negative.
My sister has a baby the same age as mine and was recently asked to sit in a private room, when she said "oh no I'm fine thank you", was told "no, I want you to please move into this private room". I'm so shocked! You hear about these things but just don't imagine it ever happening, it makes me wonder how common it is.
Has anyone else ever experienced negative comments whilst breastfeeding?
Positive comments also welcome

The only place I've encountered anything is at a bowls club where a baby group was run in a side room. We were asked to wear a feeding apron if we fed in the communal areas as the old men might catch a glimpse and be offended. No way would my dd tolerate having something over her head! A mum friend mentioned this to her retired health visitor MiL who rang up and gave them what for. Never met her but I love her for that.

I don't think it's legal to ask someone to not feed in public. I went to some other place (can't even remember where) and there was a partition with a big sign saying breastfeeding area and we all got the impression we were expected to go behind the screen. Ignored it though.

I breastfed DD for 18 months, mostly without any negativity. There was one occasion and it stunned me. I was in the mother and baby room in mothercare and another mother came in to change her baby and she was so abusive to me, telling me how disgusting I was to be feeding in there, all because she’d taken DH in there and he was trying to look at my boobs (nothing on show). I was a very nervous 23yr old first time mum so I didn’t say anything and just cried all the way home. If mums are subjected to abuse in a designated BFing area ffs there really is no hope.

I'm still nursing my 18 month old. She rarely asks to nurse in public any more but if she asks, I feed her.

I am yet to experience a negative comment but I have always had a "smart retort" ready to go in my head, just in case!... I also take GREAT enjoyment incoming up with these and thinking through them when feeding in public.

"Euw, do you have to do that" would ideally be met with "yes, do you have to watch?"

"Can you use a cover" - "not on me but feel free to chuck one over your own head sweetie"

"Isn't she a bit old for that" ..."Not according to the medical profession, are you not too old, and the wrong species to be still drinking a cow's Breastmilk?"

"Euw, can't you just express and put it in a cup?"
"Why in gods name would I want to?"

"Aren't you worried you'll be feeding her through the railings when she goes to school?"
"No, I'm going to volunteer as a classroom assistant so I can feed her on demand until she goes to uni"

"Bitty"
"Awww is that what your mother called it with you? My LO calls it 'boo'"

"That's disgusting"
"What is? Caring for my child? You poor thing!"

...like I say, never received a comment. My resting bitch face is clearly too good 😉

I had negative comments from a friend/ex friend of mine. I breast fed my son up to a year and I remember a friend of mine commented that she thought it was creepy that I was still feeding him when he was so old I couldn't believe it!!!

lisa you’re only five days in, give yourself a break! :) as others have said the vest under then vest down top up is the way to go but it does take a bit of time to get comfy and learn for both of you so don’t stress - it’ll happen :)

I also found the A frame type of nursing bra much easier than the usual type. Hotmilk have loads.

Only once had any negative comments, whilst discreetly feeding in a cafe in Peterborough. I was surprised because I was tucked away in a quiet corner with my back to the main cafe (because he was in the ‘unlatch and gawk’ phase) and zero was on show. I guess some people are just arses but it didn’t make me feel good.. :(

Thanks so much for all the advice and encouragement - was so sleepy when I posted that that I forgot I had, and didn't realise at the time quite how much I hijacked the thread . Have just ordered some clippy vest tops from H&M!

Well, I've just booked in for the hospital I want to have DC2 at this morning and the midwife doing the registration form thing asked if I had breastfed my first child, I said yes and she asked how long. When I said four years I felt a little bit sheepish, like she might judge me, but instead she said it was great and there's nothing to think is strange about it, it does the child good.

So that was nice :)